Is it hopeless?

[Arthur Little]

There are many women that get married to foreigners and leave their kids in the P.I.. to support them from foreign lands but in this case who could she leave them with even if she was prepared to do that?

Personally ... I find it hard to understand how any woman can even contemplate leaving her kids to go off and live in a foreign land ... often with someone she barely knows!

[fred]

Personally ... I find it hard to understand how any woman can even contemplate leaving her kids to go off and live in a foreign land ... often with someone she barely knows!

Yes Arthur..
Its often beyond our comprehension being from a European culture with benefit systems in place..
Here in the Philippines and other 3rd world countries like it, its normally a case of needs must..
Its that simple.
Still hard to grasp I understand that, but until we walk a mile in their broken slippers we will never really know for sure..
I have a strong feeling however that it is usually for the kids sake and their immediate and long term futures..
If you think about the millions of OFW`s working abroad often leaving their kids entrusted to family behind for years on end you may begin to realise that there really must be a valid reason for this kind of sacrifice.

[Arthur Little]

Yes Arthur..
Its often beyond our comprehension being from a European culture with benefit systems in place..
Here in the Philippines and other 3rd world countries like it, its normally a case of needs must..
Its that simple.
Still hard to grasp I understand that, but until we walk a mile in their broken slippers we will never really know for sure..
I have a strong feeling however that it is usually for the kids sake and their immediate and long term futures..
If you think about the millions of OFW`s working abroad often leaving their kids entrusted to family behind for years on end you may begin to realise that there really must be a valid reason for this kind of sacrifice.

... guess so! Doesn't make for "happy families", though, does it!?

[gWaPito]

I agree with you, Arthur (post 19). It really does beggers belief on how they do that. Im still trying to get my head around our culture differences, im improving has time goes by. Umm another Stones song. I was a child from the 60's I had with 5 siblings with a Mother and Father all living under the same roof. We as a family back then, were poor as church mice. I remember wearing shoes with holes (foot ball) as well as trousers jumpers etc. The only time we got other clothing was when it was handed down. We were happy! What a great childhood we had. No money but, a family unit. When I got married, i didnt want the same for my kids, i wanted them to have the material things i never had. Stupidly I thought the family unit thing was always going to be there. How wrong was I. Yes, my kids wanted for nothing as material things go but, Dad was never there. Always working to provide 'a better life' WRONG !. I missed there childhood, they had an absent Dad. You tell me that was right and correct ? Ok, you cant compare the situation between the Philippines and uk not even 60's uk. But, a parent is still a parent no matter what part of the world we are from, we still hurt. I will not be a martyr anymore.