Guess not.. Nor does watching hungry children and visions of them getting ill with no recourse to public health funds etc...As I said..Its hard for us to understand.. I suppose it makes the mother happy when she sends money that can assure those things we from the west often take for granted for our children.... guess so! Doesn't make for "happy families", though, does it!?
From personal experience I can tell you that even if the plan is to leave the child or children in the care of a relative while the mother sets up (permanent) home in a country on the other side of the world, it doesn't take long for the mother to start missing her children and wanting them with her...and that's hardly surprising.Originally Posted by fred
A very different situation to an OFW going off for a fixed term contract, knowing that she will be returning at the end of it, and that her sole reason for doing so is to help her kids and the rest of her family.
We knew a woman married to an old guy in the UK that left her kids in the R.P..She often came round for visits crying on my wifes shoulder saying how much she missed them..She worked from dawn till dusk in a sweat shop in Stevenage for years sending everything back to her kids in the P.I whilst putting up with her old drunken Brit...From personal experience I can tell you that even if the plan is to leave the child or children in the care of a relative while the mother sets up (permanent) home in a country on the other side of the world, it doesn't take long for the mother to start missing her children and wanting them with her...and that's hardly surprising.
To be honest I didnt look forward to her visits very much but was happy for her when she managed the odd visit to the Philippines every couple of years..
Shes still there but we were told she lost her job and is now working as a carer in an old peoples home..
Poor cow.
Im sure there are lots of members here that have experienced the same type of thing once they become involved with the Filipino community in the UK.
... poor woman, right enough! Imagine having to put up with some old fart - a drunken one, at that - on top of missing her kids. I'll bet, too, she's probably ages with his daughter (if he has one!) Now she's ended up nursing other [dare I say?] cantankerous old geezers ... and working all hours there into the bargain. (Some "bargain"!
) What a life ... eh!?
I don't know if I've offended the moderators but having responded a further two times to peoples valuable input I'm wondering why neither reply seems to be visible, even though Fred refers to something I said in one of those replies (about the father working for the Vice president and being connected!). ??
No one has been offended Mark, but several members who have replied are not on UK time, so sometimes responses can take time, dont worry, I am sure answers will be along soon enough
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... speaking as a moderator, Mark ... I can assure you none of us has been offended; on the contrary, I apologise to you for [my] digression from the main topic in the first place, by responding to something someone said about mothers who leave their children behind in the Phils to marry and go off to live overseas with men they scarcely know ... in the hope of earning enough money to support their families back home. As often happens, others got inadvertently drawn-in and ... well ... the further we strayed
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Hopefully we're once again back on track.
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