Marrying and living in the Phils

[simpleHeart]

sorry I am jess the child of jim killed by dizon And i dont no why i blame philopines Its just wen i read things online of the bad things it makes me sad
I just didnot want anyone else to be killed for being british having a filopino wife
i have never traveld there and once wanted to
Seems i get told all this stuff about the place seems scary but maybe its all lies then .Seems I am not a nasty person Sorry

Hi Jess, I have read and follow all the reply and reactions of all your reply in this thread, It was really indeed a serious and so sad happenings in your father that's why you have the grudge inside your heart towards my country.

That's why I appreciated your courage to accept that you've been wronged in judging all the Filipino women here.The grudge that you have in your heart will not help you in moving on, hope you could look into the brighter side of your life, I guess it would take time since the scenario is still fresh, but in the meantime, you should have to dig up more on what really is the Filipino. Every crimes happen not only in our country but all over the world.

I hope you could find peace in your heart

[Steve.r]

sorry I am jess the child of jim killed by dizon And i dont no why i blame philopines Its just wen i read things online of the bad things it makes me sad
I just didnot want anyone else to be killed for being british having a filopino wife
i have never traveld there and once wanted to
Seems i get told all this stuff about the place seems scary but maybe its all lies then .Seems I am not a nasty person Sorry

Thank you for that Jess,
You know we can empathise with you to some degree, it was a terrible thing that happened to your father and his partner. Angeles is not the best place to survive, but nor are places in our own country either.
Please don't blame ALL Filipino people, 99% are kind generous and loving people, and that was probably the reason why your father was there.
You hurt many feelings with your outbursts about the Filipine people, but believe me, none of us would be in relationships without having our eyes open. We have all been there and know exactly what we are getting into. Living in the province, where my house is located is not like city living, very different, very rural much safer and community spirited.

I hope you find some inner peace and turn your obvious anger into something positive that will help you become a stronger person and someone that your father would have been proud of. One insane and beastly Filipina man did this dreadful thing to your family, not the whole population.

take care

[northampton_gir]

I am sorry if i hurt your feelings I dont no what i was thinking.
I just read these comments on Dads news and some people have said its his own fault for marry one of them women etc and he deserved to die because the age gap
And i surrpose it tainted my view
But i was proud of my Dad And i didnt care what people said about him being in love with mellissa When he left for the philopines I told him i was happy that he had finally found love and i wanted him to be happy My Dad was just unlucky. maybe Sometimes i dont no who to cry to or shout at and i geuss yesterday was just another one off my Bad days

[fred]

checking from her old posts Fred, here's her dad's story it seems.. http://filipinaroses.com/showthread....ht=#post242387

Ahh...OK Rayna, thanks..
Looks like her father was another victim of Mark Dizon.. From reading the story his partner died with him on that sorry day..
I wonder if they ever raised enough cash to fly his body home?


Im hearing rumours here that Dizon may be released because of lack of evidence.. I hope the rumours are proved wrong.

[Arthur Little]

Looks like her father was another victim of Mark Dizon.. From reading the story his partner died with him on that sorry day..

Yes, ... he - James Bolton - was, Fred ... and apparently he and his Filipina partner were BOTH murdered - and their house ransacked in pursuit of robbery - by Dizon.

I wonder if they ever raised enough cash to fly his body home?

Yes, according to a 'Sky TV' news bulletin, dated August 6, 2010 ... they [the family] managed to raise £10,000 - of which £6,000 was received from a donor who wished to remain anonymous - in order to repatriate his body.

Im hearing rumours here that Dizon may be released because of lack of evidence.. *I hope the rumours are proved wrong.

So do *I ... otherwise it's going to do nothing to appease his three daughters and allow their father to rest in peace.

Small wonder they're if this should happen to be the case. Two of Mr Bolton's daughters' - Jessica the eldest ... and Becky (presumably the youngest at 21) - names appear in several news articles on the internet. Becky had evidently newly graduated from University the day before the tragedy.

I'm curious to know which of the three siblings is 'Northampton Girl'? It would certainly explain this lady's understandable anger! But WHY is it being directed at Filipinas in general and his partner's relatives in particular?

[raynaputi]

hahahahaha..funny.. it's not like only the Philippines has the worst crimes in this world..when someone is being one sided and has not had his/her facts straightened out, expect that lots would laugh at your ignorance..

yeah your dad was unlucky for everything that happened to him..but NOT ALL have the same experiences..remember DO NOT GENERALIZE..so if you are so broadminded, does it also mean all UK girls are broadminded? if one UK girl had a baby at a young age, does it mean all UK girls have babies now? if a UK girl got divorce, does it mean all UK girls are divorcee?

think about it girl..these british guys only found the love of their lives and are acting on how they feel..it's not that they don't have a choice to backout if something wrong is going on..

--- from the girl who's working in a multinational IT company and not in a bar as you think 99% of Filipinas do..

[KeithD]

You don't need to check the IP Rayna.... the grammar is the same

I guess young women in the West don't go with old ugly men with money..... the Playboy Mansion is just a fantasy

[jojo2]

I think your so so right about alot of the things your saying northampton_gir
These women do use the men for money.
And thats how its always been for years .
And so this girl cannot spell Big deal I bet she still has morals and Values,
Think about it why would a pretty young women wanna wed an old ugly man?
MONEY

[Steve.r]

I think your so so right about alot of the things your saying northampton_gir
These women do use the men for money.
And thats how its always been for years .
And so this girl cannot spell Big deal I bet she still has morals and Values,
Think about it why would a pretty young women wanna wed an old ugly man?
MONEY

Registering under another name and agreeing with your previous posts is pretty lame, and worthy of a ban .... oh, you are banned already!

[raynaputi]

do they have the same ip add steve? sorry i'm at work and just on my mobile..

[KeithD]

I've seen more prostitutes in Vegas than I have in the Phil, but then it isn't called SIN CITY for nothing.

Children are murdered/raped every day in the US. 11% of all murders in the US each year are minors (over 5 a day) , in the UK that figure is around 14%, most are under the age of 6..... before speaking, check the facts, as you are making yourself look more stupid than you alreay have

[Arthur Little]

I've seen more prostitutes in Vegas than I have in the Phil, but then it isn't called SIN CITY for nothing.

Oh! Las Vegas is called 'Sin City'? And here's me thinking that was Cincinatti!

[KeithD]

Spull Chucker

[grahamw48]

Why wouldn't a pretty young Filipina fall for a finely matured British gentleman anyway ?

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[fred]

[Sim11UK]

I think Steve.r summed it up perfectly above. Of course we all sympathise with you, for the loss of your Dad, his girlfriend & the other victims.

[northampton_gir]

Thank you rosie I am already on waiting list for cruse

[fred]

Northamptongirl..
I had a gut feeling that your outbursts here were part of something far deeper and Im so glad you have opened up a bit which is a big step in itself... Im sure you feel so much better already..Am I right?
I have something in common with your Dad as I was hooked on Filipino culture years ago and something I have never ever regretted.. I married my Mrs when I was 24 after 5 years living here..She was 21 at the time and next year we will celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary.. Much like your Dad,I was hooked...Hook line and sinker with the Filipino way of life and I live here until this day enjoying every last minute as Im sure your Father did..
Please do not listen or bother reading comments from a few ignorant Brits that have never left British shores,, They have no concern for your feelings and are only interested in shallow sound bites that they would probably have forgotten by morning,,
If ever you wish to experience the Philippines that perhaps your Dad tried to explain to you at one time please allow me to welcome you to our place here whenever you wish.. I`ll show you you around and introduce you to people that will astound you with generosity and hospitality.. That is a serious offer BTW.
Im really glad you found this forum because it is full of genuinely nice people that are prepared to help you in many ways..
God bless..
Fred.

[raynaputi]

Hi Jess...we all do sympathize with what has happened to your dad and the great impact it has done to u and your family..trust me, no one here tolerates such incidents..though i admit Philippine justice isn't to be proud of.. you can read stuffs here that even we filipinos hate about the justice system..just stick around here and you can meet lots of good filipinos

[northampton_gir]

Thank you fred for the offer to come philopines Maybe one day ill take you up on this offer,
Right now I am to frightend to go there
I wanted to go for the court trial but i am worried i might be not safe
I have never really stood on own too feet always had Dad here to advice me tell me whats best And now he is gone.
I liked all Dad told me about the country we was all going to visit him after he was due to come home this april then we was going to stay with him in a nice hotel in tarlac But we never got to do it
My dad started wrighting a book about his life out there and would send us updates on emails they was so funny and exciting
He enjoyed the little time he had in philopines
Maybe one day ill be able to move on from this and carry on his funny updates

[jimeve]

Hi northamton-gil, Extremely sorry for your loss and my apologies for my outburst.
Time is a great healer, though some times can take too long. Fred is right don't let the ignorant Brits poison your mind. Take care.
Jim.

[finlay32]

[fred]

Jess..

Dont worry about court dates etc as I doubt that your appearance would make any difference to the out come..Its not something that I feel you should become involved with.
Of course you will be a little scared to visit and that is very understandable...
One day when you feel you are ready to visit , I will be very happy to personally guarantee your safety and show you some of the wonders present here in South east Asia..
Just send me a private message any time you wish and I`ll assist you in a journey that you will never forget.. I feel that at some stage its a trip that you must make in order to give some of the things that have happened in your life some perspective..
Perhaps then,you can continue to move on..

Whenever you are ready!!
Fred.

[finlay32]

hey northampton girl just been reading all these posts, cant beleive ppl react the way they hav.. maybe you hit a nerve with a few of them eh! From what i can see your just trying to warn ppl. I think you have every right to be angry and you shouldn't be apologising to any one.. as one has already said the justice system is not one they are proud of. Keep your chin up girl I'm sure your Dad would be really proud of u. Take care

[jimeve]

Troll warning.....

[Steve.r]

hey northampton girl just been reading all these posts, cant beleive ppl react the way they hav.. maybe you hit a nerve with a few of them eh! From what i can see your just trying to warn ppl. I think you have every right to be angry and you shouldn't be apologising to any one.. as one has already said the justice system is not one they are proud of. Keep your chin up girl I'm sure your Dad would be really proud of u. Take care

I don't know who you are or what your motives are for posting that rubbish. I know you are from the same area, maybe another relative.... I advise you read the posts through properly and understand what happened. You obviously have not understood the journey which Northampton' travelled on last night and today. Her eyes have been opened because she was able to see through the anger and understand what we do here and how we choose to live our lives and how her father lived his. She has also been offered some grat advice and support, and even a very genuine and open offer to visit one of our respected members in his home in the Philippines.
I am not going to go over it all again, but if you have nothing positive to add, I will appreciate you not adding fuel to a fire that is now out.

[finlay32]

I have read all the posts on here and am entitled to my opinion. I am just shocked at some of the responses i ve seen. Some of you have said some really horrible things to northampton girl when some of YOU dont know all the facts! You all seem to want to start an arguement with anyone that doesnt agree with you... Oh an by the way I m not a relative but a good friend of Jim's. And as for northampton girl having her eyes opened it looks more like she s been bullied and abused by some of you lot until you actually read what happened to her dad.

[Steve.r]

I have read all the posts on here and am entitled to my opinion. I am just shocked at some of the responses i ve seen. Some of you have said some really horrible things to northampton girl when some of YOU dont know all the facts! You all seem to want to start an arguement with anyone that doesnt agree with you... Oh an by the way I m not a relative but a good friend of Jim's. And as for northampton girl having her eyes opened it looks more like she s been bullied and abused by some of you lot until you actually read what happened to her dad.

It appears you need your eyes opened too, 'there are none as blind as those who wont see'
It is people like you, who cannot let it lie that stir up trouble and ill feeling, what do you 'know' of the philippines apart from what you have seen on tv???.
Give the girl credit for her posts today, she has shown great strength and maturity today, and all you want to do is open up the wound again. Nice friend you are !!

[KeithD]

I am just shocked at some of the responses i ve seen. Some of you have said some really horrible things to northampton girl when some of YOU dont know all the facts!.

All responses were based on the facts of the thread, of which the input from Gir was nothing short of abusive on this forum, and she got the response people showing the same disrespect would get no matter who they are. She returned today with an open mind, and gave the thread further facts so we all understood her situation, and that is when members switched to supporting and offering help to her. They are the FACTS.

[Steve.r]

I beautiful tribute to your Dad, Jess.

Thank you for sharing