gone silent

[Ako Si Jamie]

hi STEVE believe me i will remain calm i really want to just understand this whole situation but you are spot on i cant keep going through this hopefully i'll soon be there with her for good and the uncertainty will be gone ,thats what i cant deal with its the fact of me being so far away that i just feel that im at the mercy of Janes mood.

Jamie thanx mate but dedworth beat you to it. it does make interesting reading and i can understand how its useful if you are there but to be this far away it just comes across to me as callous

grahamw48 thanx mate just what i wanted to hear NOT!!!lol

I just noticed

I did i was a wreck at the time and ended up retiring from work a year early
Mick.

How old is she?

[mickcant]

I just noticed

How old is she?

30.
Mick.

[Ako Si Jamie]

30.
Mick.

Old enough to know that behaviour is unacceptable. I think you're better off without her if she does that kind of stuff to you.

Could be worse though. I was at the tattooist this week and he told me of his friend who met a Filipina. He sold his house in the UK and bought one in the Phils. They lived together for 3 months then she kicked him out. He didn't have a leg to stand on and lost everything.

[mickcant]

Old enough to know that behaviour is unacceptable. I think you're better off without her if she does that kind of stuff to you.

Could be worse though. I was at the tattooist this week and he told me of his friend who met a Filipina. He sold his house in the UK and bought one in the Phils. They lived together for 3 months then she kicked him out. He didn't have a leg to stand on and lost everything.

If you are on about my situation still and not blackcatbones then I too lost everything but my home.
The biggest lost for me was emotional and the worry of no contact for the 4 months.
I now know her family told me lies to cover up for her while she was with her boyfriend straight after we married.

She had a baby by him, then came to the UK just so she could work and send money home.

I had already helped the family a lot, including money for operations on her siblings
(Yes the treatment was/is necessary I saw it with my own eyes)

I then went through around 13 months of hell with different excuses why the visa was taking so long, I was going to visit again but she said not to as we would soon be together, she did not want me to visit because she was pregnant.

Looking back now I was stupid to be taken in, but I loved her and we were then married and I could not understand why we could not be together!
Mick.

[blackcatbone]

Mickcant i feel for you mate your situation makes mine look tame by comparison are you still looking mate it would be a crying shame if you let this stop you fella