what you need to understand is that i thought i was the focus of her life as well i love her mate this is completely out of the blue i cant win then if she doesnt get in touch and you are saying if she does she just wants my dosh can i take the risk of abandoning her if she tells me the truth or do i just take everything she tells me with a pinch of salt. i will take the advice given here about sending her anything else until i'm sure in my own mind that she is telling me the truth