gone silent

[Ako Si Jamie]

4 months without getting in touch? That's unreal. I would have gone mental!

[mickcant]

4 months without getting in touch? That's unreal. I would have gone mental!

I did i was a wreck at the time and ended up retiring from work a year early
Mick.

[gWaPito]

im sure some people are just born victims. They just attract the wrong ones. We all attract certain types and in turn go for certain types, whether its right or wrong. So lets not keep blaming the women here. There is choice, choice not to pick the wrong one. Dont just listen to your heart, listen to your head and sometimes your mother! Forget the last option, she wouldn't have you married at all. In reply to Born a Birth about the moody thing. If someone is being silent towards me that, to me is being moody or having a mood on. You can call it what you like, its all the same to me. Good post by the way by Pacific electric. I totally agree

[Ako Si Jamie]

hi STEVE believe me i will remain calm i really want to just understand this whole situation but you are spot on i cant keep going through this hopefully i'll soon be there with her for good and the uncertainty will be gone ,thats what i cant deal with its the fact of me being so far away that i just feel that im at the mercy of Janes mood.

Jamie thanx mate but dedworth beat you to it. it does make interesting reading and i can understand how its useful if you are there but to be this far away it just comes across to me as callous

grahamw48 thanx mate just what i wanted to hear NOT!!!lol

I just noticed

I did i was a wreck at the time and ended up retiring from work a year early
Mick.

How old is she?

[mickcant]

I just noticed

How old is she?

30.
Mick.

[Ako Si Jamie]

30.
Mick.

Old enough to know that behaviour is unacceptable. I think you're better off without her if she does that kind of stuff to you.

Could be worse though. I was at the tattooist this week and he told me of his friend who met a Filipina. He sold his house in the UK and bought one in the Phils. They lived together for 3 months then she kicked him out. He didn't have a leg to stand on and lost everything.

[mickcant]

Old enough to know that behaviour is unacceptable. I think you're better off without her if she does that kind of stuff to you.

Could be worse though. I was at the tattooist this week and he told me of his friend who met a Filipina. He sold his house in the UK and bought one in the Phils. They lived together for 3 months then she kicked him out. He didn't have a leg to stand on and lost everything.

If you are on about my situation still and not blackcatbones then I too lost everything but my home.
The biggest lost for me was emotional and the worry of no contact for the 4 months.
I now know her family told me lies to cover up for her while she was with her boyfriend straight after we married.

She had a baby by him, then came to the UK just so she could work and send money home.

I had already helped the family a lot, including money for operations on her siblings
(Yes the treatment was/is necessary I saw it with my own eyes)

I then went through around 13 months of hell with different excuses why the visa was taking so long, I was going to visit again but she said not to as we would soon be together, she did not want me to visit because she was pregnant.

Looking back now I was stupid to be taken in, but I loved her and we were then married and I could not understand why we could not be together!
Mick.