hi terpe
afraid i cant fully understand the feeling of hopelesness that can be felt but i know my mahal has felt it. her father was ill and needed medical help but they(her family) couldnt afford for him to get the the tests, treatment and operation that he needed. as a last option she asked me to help her help her dad. i know during the time that he was sick (it seemed to take quite a while for him to get treated) she was upset, and worried about him. i know that they would have really struggled to get the money to help him if i hadnt help my mahal (and father in law to be) and that he would still be in pain and ill now. i really do worry about her parents as they are getting older (her father is 68) and myself and my mahal might not always be able to afford the medical treatment needed.