23yo pinay looking for a man

[KeithD]

I wouldn't want anyone elses kid!! Hard enough trying to get rid of my own

[joebloggs]

have you tried putting them on ebay ?

my kids came with the wife, it was one of those all in one deals

depends what age they are, below 10 and over 16 yr their ok, btw them years their trouble.


if your wife had kids already keith would you have stilled married her or you better not answer but your wife still married you, even thou you got 2 kids already, hope you've not got double standards just joking you've survived married life longer than me.

just go with the flow....

[aromulus]

Having followed the thread for a while, I didn't post until now, just wanted to see where it was leading to.

I feel that if you really love someone, the baggage doesn't matter.

Jet, my wife of 7 weeks, has a 13 year old girl, and the only thing we are really sorry about is that she will not be coming to the Uk just yet.
She recently started high school, and the upeval of the move might just upset the apple cart. Besides she is at the age, when she would miss the many cousins and friends and all the rest of the family. In a couple of years she will be able to join us here, and finally meet her step-brothers and sisters. Don't get me wrong, I want her here with the mother, but at the present moment it is, for her own benefit, not feasible.
Yes, I do agree, if you are not prepared to take on board your partners children, then you have no business in starting a relationship with the mother.

Only my two pence worth.....

[joebloggs]

totally agree with you aromulus

bit of advice, make sure your stepdaughter is in the uk and allowed to stay before she is 18, once shes 18 its near impossilbe to get her a visa to stay Permanently.

and getting a visa for a step child can be a long process, we were luckly that my wife still was in contact with my stepsons bio dad, and he gave us a letter explaining he had not supported or seen him much, and wanted his son to come and live in the uk with his mom and sister, so getting a visa for my stepson was not a problem, but for some people it will not be that easy.

if i remember right, if your wife is on a 2yr spouse visa, your stepdaughter doesnt have have to be in the uk 2yrs, unlike your wife before she can apply for ILR.

i did the same with my stepson, he was in his final year at school, and thought it be better if i got his aunt to live with him while he finished school and went to college, but becuase she had family problems she returned home, and by then he was 17, i got him a visa and he is here in the uk, but hes now turend 18, and iam applying for ILR for my wife, daughter and him, but its going to be really difficult to get it for him... if i had known this i would have brought him with us 2 years ago,but then it wouldnt make much difference, as he would still have been 18, before my wife could apply for ILR.

i'll be phoning a couple of law centres near me asking advice, before i make a ILR app for him.

[aromulus]

My situation is totally different from yours.

I am not going for a settlement visa, but a more civilized
EEA2... Or family permit. At no cost whatsoever...

As long as the girl is on the paperwork as dependant child, she can join the mother any time she chooses.
There is something to be said for not getting a British citizenship...


Do I Need A UK Visa
You asked if a national of Philippines needs a visa to come to the UK as a non EEA/Swiss family member of an EEA/Swiss national.
If you are an eligible family member you need an EEA Family Permit. Eligible family members are defined in the EEA Regulations as:

• the spouse of an EEA national, excluding a person who is party to a marriage of convenience
• a descendant (child or grandchild) of an EEA national or his/her spouse who is 21 years of age or is their dependant (this includes stepchildren or adopted children)
• a dependant in the ascending line (ie parents or grandparents) of an EEA national or his/her spouse

A Family Permit is similar to a visa, but is issued free of charge to eligible family members of EEA and Swiss citizens. It allows you to travel to or stay freely in the UK with your EEA family member.
If you want to come to the UK independently of your EEA family member, the normal visa requirements apply. Please re-submit your enquiry, choosing another Purpose of visit.
Please read Guidance - EEA & Swiss Nationals for more information.
Any dependants under 16 years old, included on your passport, can be included on the same form, but those older will need to fill in separate forms.
If you are a national of, or are normally and legally living in Philippines please make your application to Manila.



It took me a while to root out this bit of information, they keep it very quiet indeed, but in the end I got there...
Unfortunately it doesn't work for you Brits, but it would, as far as I am aware, if you were living and working in Europe.



http://www.ncadc.org.uk/archives/fil...ews17/don.html

Also have a read at this page, and see how the cards are stacked against Brit Joe Average.

Dom