Having followed the thread for a while, I didn't post until now, just wanted to see where it was leading to.
I feel that if you really love someone, the baggage doesn't matter.
Jet, my wife of 7 weeks, has a 13 year old girl, and the only thing we are really sorry about is that she will not be coming to the Uk just yet.
She recently started high school, and the upeval of the move might just upset the apple cart. Besides she is at the age, when she would miss the many cousins and friends and all the rest of the family. In a couple of years she will be able to join us here, and finally meet her step-brothers and sisters. Don't get me wrong, I want her here with the mother, but at the present moment it is, for her own benefit, not feasible.
Yes, I do agree, if you are not prepared to take on board your partners children, then you have no business in starting a relationship with the mother.
Only my two pence worth.....
