Gossip and its consequences...

[pacificelectric]

I want to share a rather unpleasant situation I and an ex-gf have been through and which I believe could happen to anyone here. Last year I broke up with a Filipina from Davao City with whom I had been in a relation for some time, mainly because I had the impression she was merely taking advantage of me financially. I won’t enter into details, suffice it to say that over a year I sent her about PHP 550.000. Yes, more than half a million pesos, for various reasons: construction work in her house, her son’s tuition, late Christmas bonus, etc.

After that I went on a couple of dating sites. On one, Filipino Friend Finder, I was approached by a Filipina from Tagum, a small town close to Davao. We started to exchange e-mails. I believe she was an ex-teacher and she stopped working because her son was having health problems. Her English was quite perfect and she seemed smart. She asked me if I had been in the Phils before and I mentioned my visit to Davao and the ex-gf there. She asked me why I had broken up with her and I stated the reason without entering in details.

At that stage, she began lecturing me in an extremely vehement and virulent way about dumping that woman and went on saying I certainly still was in love with her, etc... well, being sapot, pikon and suplado on top of being French, I told her bluntly to mind her f..... business and she apologized, stating she had been visited by two men before, one who was a heavy smoker and another one who had visited other girls before her (she found out “by accident” when opening his passport) and she felt frustrated by these bad experiences.

Still shortly after she told me that she did the laundry for the DENR in Tagum and since my ex worked in the DENR in Davao, she would ask there who she was and find info on her. And she ended her message by “jejeje”, which I imagine is the Filipino equivalent of “ha ha ha”.... I immediately stopped communicating with her and did not respond to her subsequent messages, and she stopped writing, and also deleted her profile on FFF.

Recently I received an e-mail from my ex-gf in Davao complaining that a nasty rumour was being spread at her office in Davao about a DENR worker who had been dumped by a Frenchman who suspected her of taking advantage of him financially.

Well, I will refrain from being judgmental but I have already read other stories of irresponsible gossip in the Phils (my ex from Davao herself warned me against the “paki alamero”!) and I now realize I should have been more careful. Anyway, lesson learnt, now I will remain vague about my past. From the way she communicated with me that woman from Tagum has an issue with western men, perhaps because she wasted her time with the two men who visited her. I will not disclose her surname here but if some members of this forum are on dating sites, her name is Marichu, she is single with a sick son in Tagum, Mindanao and as I explained above she is a big troublemaker. If she approaches you, run away from her!

[keithAngel]

Endemic is the word that better describes gossip
here its not uncommon for something i heard at breakfast to arrive back from the USA that evening as "new" having gne the rounds of text yahoo and facebook

A secret here has been described as a burden to be shared as quickly as possible

[sars_notd_virus]

Gossip and its consequences...

Its like Coronation Street on text

..some people just cant get enough , they go on and on and get envy and dont want anyone to be happy..One thing I like here in England, people dont usually care what you do, they just mind their own business, and carry on with their lives...but some filipinas are exeptionally bringing their lifestyle in the Philippines here, so have to learn to be cautious..private is private,too much info is not good at all times!!

[Terpe]

....A secret here has been described as a burden to be shared as quickly as possible

Sadly, this also applies to many Filipino communities overseas

[raynaputi]

i sooooo agree with you there mari girl

[bornatbirth]

Sadly, this also applies to many Filipino communities overseas

your right, gossip can spread where ever the filipina is

[Terpe]

your right, gossip can spread where ever the filipina is

I'm not filipina bashing, just relating what I seen and experienced in ALL the countries I've lived.
Especially here in UK !!

[KeithD]

I call it the 'Filipina Grapevine'

It's like that game we used to play as kids, you start with a sentence, and buy the time it reaches kid no.8 it has a totally different meaning

A patient says: Doctor, last night I made a Freudian slip, I was having dinner with my mother-in-law and wanted to say: "Could you please pass the butter"� But instead I said: "You silly cow, you have completely ruined my life"

[Tawi2]

Send reinforcements we are going to advance...............Send three and fourpence we are going to a danceMaraming chismosas sa Pinas

[Terpe]

Send reinforcements we are going to advance...............Send three and fourpence we are going to a danceMaraming chismosas sa Pinas

Coincidently, I was just this moment thinking of that one.

[malditako]

loads of gossipers in every part of the world...even here in UK

[Piamed]

I'm not experience Filipinas gossiping more than anyone else I ust confess. I will say that Your ex may not have been totally honest with you about what happene. You've not indicated whether you actually have seen the girl in Tagum 'live'. Could be your ex messing about for wahtever reason. Just a thought!

[pacificelectric]

I'm not experience Filipinas gossiping more than anyone else I ust confess. I will say that Your ex may not have been totally honest with you about what happene. You've not indicated whether you actually have seen the girl in Tagum 'live'. Could be your ex messing about for wahtever reason. Just a thought!

I never saw that woman live, not even talked to her on the phone, we just exchanged a couple of e-mails. So obviously the one at fault is that girl from Tagum. What pisses me off is that she started lecturing me about dumping that poor woman in Davao, and she ended up smearing her deliberately by spreading the story at the Tagum DENR office, from where it spread in Davao...