to have brought up this particular "can of worms". But there's a friend of mine who behaves towards his partner in exactly that way. I've seen it so many times when I have been in their company and are joined by another person ... and it annoys me intensely - which is why I mentioned it here - even though I haven't said anything to him.
Unlike you they're not actually married ... despite being in a relationship for more than 5 years now. By his own admission, he's a "commitment phobe" ... and, frankly, I'm at a loss to understand how she manages to put up it.But for some reason she does. To my mind good communication in any partnership is absolutely VITAL!