Question about having children?

[FertileOne]

your curiosity about age gap,has been given objectable comments ,..your main topic is 'questions about children'?? age gap, sperm donations, citizenship of a partner is not an issue in having a baby/child in a relationship whether its fil-brit,asian-asian,brit-brit,or any race.

Actually it is the issue. If it were not, then I would not have posted this on this forum. It would've ended up in Yahoo. "Dear World, who is responsible to have children?". I posted it here, because it is apparent (no matter how much it offends you), that there are many (if not the majority) of members on here who are in Fil-Brit relationships or planning to get into Fil-Brit relationships. Of these members, a lot of them are a) working with a fairly significant age gap, and or b) have already raised one family, or c) are filipinas who tend to be very maternal. Based on points (a), (b) and (c) it's a worthy question to ask. There is no malice intended, not here to p*** people off, just want to hear peoples views. The topic may not personally relate to me (you don't know), this could be a survey for all you need to know.

What I wanted to gauge was how many of you ran into such issues:

- Men who have already raised one family, might not be looking to raise another family. They may be marrying a young Filipina to have a "fun" relationship, without the 'burden' of children.

- Men who have already raised one family, might have had a vasectomy (very common after they believed their family was complete). Then may have had problems getting a successful reversal. (I know the rates vary, not everyone is successful).

- Men who are much older, may have fertility problems (and can't get their partner pregnant), or they may have health problems (and don't feel in the position to raise children).

I created the topic, to hear your views. I by no means think that I'm so perfect that I know all the reasons and problems that can arise. So I put the ball in your court.

the big question is...is every man,bloke responsible to become a father?? your young,and you've donated sperm are you ready for fatherhood fertile one?? I asked this because a lot of boys or youngsters nowadays cant keep their willy inside their pants and just multiply their genes ,wheres the fatherhood in that case??
quoting grahams' reply ' no one wants to be called a bas***rd,its not fair isnt it?

The ball is in your court. If you disagree with sperm donation, or homosexuality, then I suggest you send your hate to the relevant organisations: , - But don't try to talk in a condescending manner to a sperm donor about the responsibilities of becoming a father. It's got nothing to do with me.