Me and the Mrs lived together for 18 months before getting married. We are 20 years difference but I have less issue here than I expect we will have when we move to the UK. Sometimes we feel slightly uncomfortable walking around the malls in Cebu as we probably look like every other older foreigner tourist with their local Guest Relation Officer. Hopefully the new baby will give us more credibilityShe definitely has dragged me down to her age, in a good way.
I agree ...definitely keeps you young, as do the kids, but helps if you're already a big kid yourself.
In the UK it will most likely be women who give the disapproving 'looks'.
The guys will pat you on the back ...but watch them.
Hello,
I can answer this one SimpleHeart. I am 56 and my wife is 24. For some unknown reason I have been so lucky to find her as she is so lovely and so honest. She has never once asked me for a peso. We get on great. I am a bit paranoid about the age thing but at the end of the day our relationship works.
I have had exactly that. people say to me that she is just after wealth. Ironically they are so far from the truth. Maybe I am just one of a lucky few, I dont know but how do I handle it? I just accept it. And thankfully not everyone is narrow minded. I have lost the odd friend, over her though.
Hope this helps.
The thing is 'Lid, people don't know you, your wife or the relationship you have with your wife. They certainly will not understand the culture that she comes from or the time and effort a LDR takes from both parties.. Many 'onlookers' will just see 'thai bride' and think the classic crap. I put it down to petty jealousy and like you say, narrowmindedness. There is 16 years between my wife and I, but we are great together, only when someone can walk in my shoes can they comment on my life.
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Yes. I agree with that. An old female friend of mine refuses to talk to me now but when I asked her to justify her reasoning she came out with so much ill informed nonsense.Originally Posted by Steve.r
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Good man,I would never contemplate associating with someone who wasnt even slightly differentAll my friends are odd
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I dont think its jealousy Steve,because as we both know anyone of advanced years could fly to Pinas tomorrow and within a week be fixed up with a woman half his age,it really and truly isnt difficult at all,thats a fact,I think in the UK its more a cultural thing,we arent used to marrying younger partners,most people marry within their age'bracket near enough.Like I said I think its just a cultural thing,in Pinas its a lot more acceptable for a younger woman to marry a much older guy for securityI put it down to petty jealousy
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
My ex girlfiend, from the UK, gave me a lot of earache about my wife marrying for financial gain / security also. Or at least she thought. But ironically she has just married a very wealthy scottish chap and thus has "married upwards". It goes on the world over.
Oh ... sounds sooo, so familiar to me, too. After I was widowed, I had this on~off "thing" [I'll call it "liaison"] with a woman in my own age bracket (in fact I was her "toyboy" by 8 months.
... at least, not in so many words ...
). But loneliness can have a strange effect on people ... and I MIGHT'VE yielded to the temptation - had the opportunity presented itself in the early stages.
Latterly, hubby succumbed to lung cancer and chronic alcoholism - having spent his last weeks being cared for by the *couple's middle daughter at my lady friend's house (despite *their divorced status) - and we found ourselves back in touch following yet another period of separation ... during which time I'd been beginning to enjoy my singledom.
Anyway, after 10 years of "highs and lows", we gradually found ourselves drifting apart - this time for good!
Some time afterwards, she contacted me with the news that she'd met a guy on the internet, and they planned to wed. Interestingly enough, he happened to be around our age (hers and mine) had never been married and was already retired from a well-paid job in which he'd risen to a supervisory capacity as a telecommunications engineeer. So ... unlike me ... he was fairly wealthy! ("Speaks volumes ...", as far as I'm concerned!)
We've remained friends, however.Indeed, she and her present husband even invited my wife, Myrna & I to their [palatial] new home for lunch on one occasion. Of course, I could be wrong ... but remain convinced this gesture was made in order to "suss-out" her former long-term b/f's young Filipina bride.
... you mean there ARE wealthy Scottish
chaps ???
... well ... I suppose I've just confirmed it - in mentioning my former g/f's new-found status.
Yes, they own most of Scotland, but just happen to live in Berkshire or Surrey.
Yes, they own most of Scotland, but just happen to live in Berkshire or Surrey., Graham ... or ANYWHERE ... south of Yorkshire,
And long may it continue !
I remember my friend (Phil) saying that he'd been walking in the street in Bedford wearing a tee-shirt with a picture of a Filipina dancing girl from top to bottom of it, and also had the 'Firehouse' Manila logo on it.
This woman had walked up to him and called him a chauvinist pig.
Exactly.
Oh the hypocrisy.
The only time I ever had any concerns about age difference was very early on in the relationship with my wife and found out her age.
My initial reaction was a bit like most I guess, that of thinking how could I keep this relationship going.
Age gap doesn't bother me at all.
Mind you I seem to look older and Carina seems to look even younger than her years
Mind you I seem to look older and Carina seems to look even younger than her years... tell me about it, Peter!
Like many on here Pia and I enjoy a little bit of an age gap. At first I was sightly unsure about it but once I realised she could keep up, any concerns melted away
Seriously, it's an old (forgive the pun) cliche, but "age ain't nuthin' but a number". What counts most in my view is compatibility across the unique areas that matter most to a particular couple. Like most men I've matured late mentally and like many women, Pia has matured early mentally thus, we arrived in each other's life at the optimal time.
With regard to comments from observers. Who cares what others think as long as you and yours are happy? I learned many years ago that people ALWAYS have an agenda/bias. As long as you are aware of those pertaining to the person passing a comment, you will know how much store to set by it.
My judge! Do I feel as though I'm doing anything wrong? Am I striving to make my significant other happy? Am I happy? Do we amount to more as a couple than our sum as individuals?
Just my thoughts.
Peace!
Last edited by Piamed; 23rd August 2011 at 16:53. Reason: Aye crnt spll to sayv mi lyf
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I think this accurately sums up our relationship. We are very compatible despite the age difference.
just remember no onecan make you feel bad or upset without your permission.... sod em all hehehehehehehehee
Live your life for a reason and don't worry be happy
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this age thing is just a number that most of us count until we hit 30, after that we tend to forget ones age, well i think i am 25 x 2 and i bit, its what we all do in between being born and leaving this planet, we all have a past a future and a preasent but its what we all do right now that matters so weather you are older or younger then your partner enjoy all you can,
I buck the trend,I would always have someone within my own age bracket,it feels more comfortable and natural,and thats according to some pinays as well,dont think they are all ok with a 4 Mīs age gap
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
My wife concurs with the above ( ours is 3M )..............,dont think they are all ok with a 4 Mīs age gap
What makes an old puti acceptable but not an old pinoybut sure is I cant be with an old Filipino guy who is just like my father's age I might probably sick with thatand you would be surprised how many women have told me exactly what you said
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
I learnt the 4 when I first ever went to Pinas barely able to shave Last,we used to say matandang mayaman madaling mamatay
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
Age means little these days..... but don't think backwards otherwise when I was leaving school Rayna was in nappies
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when I was leaving school Rayna was in nappies
My mother-in-law is older than me.................... but a friend of ours is 13 years older than his in-laws in Pinas. He has a great story about the first meeting. His had no problems with his MIL, but he did have some issues to overcome with his FIL
I think that old carabaos spirit was willing but his flesh was weak,he seemed quite a dirty old letch to be honest,always licking his lips and staring,touching and stroking herand young grass need to be feed by old carabao??
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
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