man that is some serious problem you have there, please do not put off if some of us here are a bit blunt,, many of us have seen/heard/been through traumatic times ourselves or with friends and can get a little hardened or just plain forthright. Your appraoch to trying to target help seems reasonable if you can make it work but I fear you have little or no legal recourse in the Phils. Tough one mate, cannot think how you should proceed.