Can I get my son?

[philphil61]

I take your point grahamw48

except that her living conditions do not fair well - with no real running water, electricity cables that's been botched and taped to death, no glass windows in the home, leaky roof, washing (bathing and laundry) are done from concrete sunken tank, education is almost primitive and is costly, health is not to standard (my first born died at birth becoz the dr's stethoscope was faulty, the ct scanner was locked away in another room and they had to read the instructions on how to use it and they did not treat my ex gf until it was too late - we arrived at 1.20am was seen by the dr about 30 mins later with heart rate of baby at 75 but they didnt do anything until 7.30am)

so basically i have no good reasons becoz that's the way some filipinos live and accept it!

but honestly - he would have a better education/health, I would not teach him to seek only foreigner for money but teach him real christian values.

It's all down to personal choice - you have your opinion - I have mine

but another comment to your statement - why not? why not take him to the other side of the world?

[grahamw48]

but another comment to your statement - why not? why not take him to the other side of the world?

But that wasn't my question was it.

You seem to be ruling the child's mother out of the equation.

Without her permission, until the child is an adult he will NEVER be allowed to leave the Phils , and without a British passport she would have to accompany the child anyway.

The Philippines govt. is very strict on this now because of anti- people trafficking laws.

So I suggest that you start building, or re-building a relationship with HER.

As far as living conditions in the Phils are concerned, yes I'm quite aware of what a 3rd world country is like to live in, as I've been living there off and on for the past 20+ years, including stays of up to 3 years.

Unfortunately there are millions of children living in what we would consider poor conditions over in the Phils, and I can't see any court accepting that as grounds for giving custody to you, but it IS (as the poster above has pointed out) perhaps in your hands to help out where you can.