Wow i am so glad i did a little research and it brought me to this site
such genuine and friendly people thank you for the replies
i will be going late july only for a few days and will really try to get to know this girl in the flesh face to face she is in her 40s i have just turned 50 she is christian and i have every faith she is for real the place i will be going is malanday marakina and yes i am now aware to keep all evidence
one other question that has not been answered is there an agency that can help this go smoothly when the time comes
best wishes to every one