today has been a happy day, my mortgage has changed after being in a fixed rate for 3 years, just fixed it for 2 years at 3.5% and i am happy about that, i took out a 10 year mortgage after the split and divorce and i shall pay it off in only 5 years if all goes well , so what i am trying to say to all that reads this life can get better after a divorce and never ever give up on your dreams, its hard at first but beleive me life is fantastic for me and i hope emma too, good luck to all that may find themselves in that situation