Joe de hitman bloggs
but seriously
one thing i noticed in your first post you were unsure if you wanted to seperate have you looked at getting medation or counsling. even just a joint friend to sit you both down and talk things though?
A interacial marriage with all the hassles on visa applications and one of the party living so far from home is tough on both parties.
maybe simply writing letters explaining your points of views and how you feel might help.
just a thought
