Quote Originally Posted by Koala View Post
But I can't understant you state that he offered you financial help but he became angry when you refused his kind assistance. You need to tell him why and he needs to understand the difference in the amount of wages you both are receiving. surely he must be able to work that out.
Koala
Thanks, Koala. He knows how much I earn every month. I've been upfront with him about that. He offered financial help many times but I always said I can manage. He said that I shouldnt make a big deal about money coz it's just ....... money.....pardon my language, that was his exact word. He's been asking me to start getting requirements for passport and possible for visa application. I know our real score that it's not that easy to apply for a visa but he doesnt know that. He keep asking me the reasons and he felt that I was making excuses coz he thought that it should be easy.

Anyways, he got angry one time that I borrowed from my friend so I can finally apply for my passport. He said that I shouldnt have done that, that I should have asked him and waited until he send me the money. But despite of his offer, how many times he offered, I know that deep inside he still have the notion that we are good for nothing women who are after his money. Well, my bad that I take his words and find the courage to ask help coz I badly needed help. What good it did me? Silence. I'm hurt, pissed off, confused. I dont know what to make of it.

About moving on, I hope it's that easy coz I had 2 months before to do that but those months I was in hell a lot of pain. I should have listen to my colleagues, that I shouldnt believe his words coz I dont know him that much. This might be news to some but almost everyone werent keen about me getting serious with a foreign guy. They advice me that the only time I should have take him seriously is when I finally know him in person. That he should prove if he is worthy to have me. But I'm stubborn, hard to believe but I fall in love with him.

Next time a man offers me financial help, I'll accept his money and shove it down his throat! Before anybody judge me, try to know me well, try to see life from my shoes. Much better idea, don't judge at all. We are not God, we are not perfect. Try to see your own dirt before anybody throws dirt on me.

I dont mean to be rude but it's really pissing me off. I dont want to be arrogant as well but how may women would love to trade in my shoes, have the education that I have, the job I have, the family I have, circle of friends that I have. We are not that different if we look past our prejudices.

I hope I havent offended anyone in this site. I just want to understand.