Sounds like you have lost your faith in human kind there a bit... many of the contributors on here freely give of their time for no other reward than trying to help others in the same boat as they were some years before bringing their partners here.
True sometimes we will all say or not say, do or not do,something for fear of offending but in my experience it pays to be who you are ..warts and all , that way you know who your friends are because true friends will drop their mask and tell you when you are being a dork LOL