Originally Posted by sweetnote143
they are right, gary, in some dating sites there are lots who are there to scam unsuspecting foreigners....watch out in datingsites for members who are using pictures of celebrities, transgenders who can pass as a woman in their pictures, and those who show a lot of skin and cleavage. I'm not saying that all filipina members in dating sites are scammers. there are who really in earnest trying to find someone to love....it is best when you agree to have a chat is to ask her to use a cam as well. dont tell you're attracted to her from what you've seen in her pics or from what you've read in her profile....just get to know her, ask a lot of questions about her and look for consistency in her answers....be her friend first....and always be honest and frank with her...dont let her believe or assume something when in fact you were not serious about what you've said.....the best is always be frank even if she's not going to like what you're saying or going to say.
ask around maybe they know someone who is in earnest looking for a boyfriend in this site......that's the safest way since some of the members might know her well......anyways, goodluck with your search, gary
Good info there!As said, try to chat on the cam a few times. I've seen many fake photos before now and I've also been nearly caught by a lady-boy! Yes, I chatted to them on cam too, but mostly without sound. They can be very convincing especially when they have had surgery such as a boob job and adam's apple etc!
I was lucky in that I just searched their name on Facebook and although they were not on there, there was a link to them on a lady-boy website! Also beware when they say that they love you way too early and come up with many hardship situations. Keep an open mind, don't rush and try to just chat about anything & everything, getting to know her without mentioning any fancy things you might have or what your house is like etc. I find it best to start chatting with a few, then get a feel who you enjoy chatting with/have a connection with and hopefully you'll narrow it down to the one right girl. I've chatted to a few nice girls and got on fine, but sometimes it's just been like "I've done this or that today" and they say the same, but there's something missing and you kinda get the feeling that conversation could struggle. For me it needs to be more than that where you always find things to chat about and like with Viva and I, we're always saying that we'll just chat for 5/10 minutes more, then go on chatting for another hour or so!
Sometimes you might be lucky and meet the right girl early on, or sometimes it can take a time. It took me 2 years to find the right girl, after spending 7 months on one girl who I thought it was going well with (but who suddenly ended up with someone else), and chatting to many different girls (in this country and others) on a few websites. I had quite a few scam tries, one girl needing money for her phone bill on the first chat, another needing money for renting a cam in the Internet cafe-(I think she thought I'd be persuaded after sending me a few foxy photos of herself!), one whose phone number was a premium rate line and you couldn't text + she had no other phone she said and another later after sending quite a few messages, professed love too early and not too long after was asking for money. Like people have said on this forum many times, if someone who you'd only spoken to a few times say in a pub or through friends of friends etc asked you for money, would you give it to them?
It also helps if you can find someone who is working, not too young (a lot of younger girls are not so mature, don't know what love is and fantasize a bit too much!), doesn't have children and isn't divorced. I'm not saying don't go for someone who doesn't have those situations as quite a few people on here have met their partner on here with some of those situations and it's worked out well, but the more of those situations that they have, will just make more complications for yourself, will be more costly and longer before you can be together.
So basically, be a bit on your guard, spend some time, be patient -you'll learn many things along the way and hopefully you'll get lucky some day and find the right girl for you.
