Im not being selfish believe me.
Im considering her in all this.
She may not like the uk and may want to return home whether she loves me or not. Its wrong for her or me to be forced into commitment so that she can just visit.
I believe u when you say a fiance visa is a big deal.
But my Gf is the most laid back person ever. So when i told her that she would probably not get tourist visa, her response was 'ok'.
Its more of a big deal to me.