^ I agree with you but what is making this so difficult is that if I decide not to return from Thailand, what will she be facing? A beating from her father for shaming the family in front of the whole community? She would no doubt return to Hong Kong where she would end up 'working' again - and I wish her mother could know what she was doing then maybe she's have a bit more understanding of the situation.
She was a very choosy and almost snobbish working girl who angered a lot of young businessmen with her attitude, she wasn't cut out to be a working girl at all and didn't take it seriously, however - I want a better life for her and if I marry when I don't really feel I should then I could end up resenting her and making her life a misery.
If I leave her, it's still bad for her... I got myself into this situation, though in my defence I didn't realize I would be staying in the family home and expected to marry.
Maybe if I get a job in Thailand I should offer to fly her out to be with me and see what she says.
