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[worthingmale]

welcome

[Arthur Little]

Well ... now's your chance to renew old friendships - and make new ones.

[Peter D]

Thanks for the replies . I have been going through hell this past four weeks , you wouldnt believe how just a few responses like this have given me a lift . Before the breakup I was not one for feeling sorry for myself or getting depressed but its like being hit by a sledgehammer . It does help to hear from people who have been through the same and seeing real people responding like this , thanks . I have it in mind to go back to the Philippines , harvesting Tilapia at Taal lake was one experience I will never forget . Approximately thirty of us spent three days landing and packing about 10 tons of fish , it was a surreal experience sleeping on a reed matt on the verandah of a bamboo house on stilts at the side of the lake with parafin lamps and giant beetles flying into them during the night . My friend who owned the fish farm hired three jeepneys for the journey from Manila to transport his staff and extended family who normally worked in his machine shop so we were effectively all complete amateurs and probably lucky none of us got drowned . What has stayed with me about this experience was after three days of working together any idea that I was just an English visitor had gone completely , I was accepted by everyone as an equal . The friendship of those people was something I have never seen anywhere else and its probably something that at this time is making me want to return .

[philuk]

What has stayed with me about this experience was after three days of working together any idea that I was just an English visitor had gone completely , I was accepted by everyone as an equal . The friendship of those people was something I have never seen anywhere else and its probably something that at this time is making me want to return .

I know where you are coming from peter, When i went to the philippines to meet and get engaged to my wife, i was treated like one of the family from the word go, from the first time i entered her home there, I felt as if i had been there before, like i had just come back home after being away. I had a strong sence of belonging there, and if i am honest it i miss my family there. it just dont feel right here in the UK even though born and raised here theres just something about the PI and its people, "I think it comes down to respect and the love they have for each other"

[Peter D]

sorry , I seem to have managed to post same thing twice , not thinking straight or maybe moderator could delete last post ?

[Arthur Little]

sorry , I seem to have managed to post same thing twice , not thinking straight or maybe moderator could delete last post ?

... DONE!