Confused Filipina

[Moy]

Lynn i must say you this..i might not know you ,same as you dont know me..
but one thing i could say, we as a person need to have pain in order to grow
and through this trial you going through know that will mold you to be a better person
well actually either it will make you in two way either a worst, grumpy unsettle/miserable or aN open-minded, sensitive and strong person ready to take the rough battle of "LIFE"

listen to this song lynn

[grahamw48]

Damn....why did I have to end up the grumpy miserable one ?

Time for a new lady to whip me into shape.

[Moy]

ill help you find one graham..but this time i would choose to give you both

[pinay4uk]

right graham

[grahamw48]

lol!

[grahamw48]

You know, I go on the dating sites like tagged, and there are so many beautiful Filipinas there I can't decide, and just get a headache.

[Moy]

ill give you site..worth to try sweet graham..it might be an Indian site but worthy to try

http://www.shaadi.com/index.php

[grahamw48]

OMG...those parents putting their daughters on there !

I's like a bloody meat market !

Some lovely girls, but they want their men to be god-fearing.

Perhaps I will look at the Mumbai property section.

[Moy]

hmm fair comments lolz i never heard the story of that though until now..
but we can only risk to try to know he he or we will never know at all lolz

[pinay4uk]

nice song moy, very touching...1 thing I realized also, for as long as we are still living, life is going to be the same, it's like a wheel that will continue to roll, full of ups and downs but it isn't how many times we stumble, it is how we try to stand up , move on and start a life all over again. If only we try to count our blessings not those times we were down that's when we realized that there are more things in our lives to be thankful of than to complain about.

[Moy]

thats right Lynn
sometimes you’re up, sometimes you’re down.
When you’re up, that’s good and well.
But when you’re down, you must be prepared.
Let us not forget that our life is like a wheel.
Coz there are no certainties here on earth.
Someday you might find yourself on top again.

[grahamw48]

Your children will always be there for you when others come and go.

My son has only been gone on his holiday 2 days and I miss him so much already.

I fuss over him like a mother hen, yet he's already 18....but always my 'little boy'.

[Moy]

"Any man can be a father. It takes someone special to be a dad". ~Author Unknown

[grahamw48]

You have the love or you don't.

I have lots to spare.

[Moy]

was it for spare or repair? graham he he

[grahamw48]

Spare for my kids....repair for the ladies.

[Moy]

nah..you need a carpenter or plumber i think that case graham he he

[pinay4uk]

nah..you need a carpenter or plumber i think that case graham he he

ah maybe graham needs a computer technician...i hope life is like a computer when we can ask a technician to reformat it and only leaves the important files on it and save it while delete everything that we don't need to keep. But life isn't like that no matter how we don't like anything that happened in the past, it will still always be a part of our past, though it will be considered a history but still there are times that we can remember it but that depends on the person if he/she has moved on from that history or still attached to it. Life is just really life, made to be not perfect or if life is perfect it would also be boring. peace graham

[Moy]

i hope life is like a computer when we can ask a technician to reformat it and only leaves the important files on it and save it while delete everything that we don't need to keep.

Lynn..as i always told you i exactly know how you feel letting go at times is hard task but if you hang to your past it will kept hunting you for the rest of your life and either it will just make you miserable/grumpy or a better person at the end..just "LET GO"
"Letting go is one of the hardest lessons in life.In life, there's many things that we have to learn to let go. We have to let go of situations, things, memories, people and even ourselves. Letting go of your past and memories are also extremely hard. Even though old memories can be tormenting, yet you might hold on to the past and refuse to move forward. However, by refusing to let go of the painful past, it'll serve as a roadblock to love. ":(
as you said its history a history should be completely destroy while you still have the confidence and strength, dont wait until it will eventually ruin your future relationship because you are still clinging to the said history

"og bisaya ka lynn taga cagayan man ka noh..? sa mga tiguwang nga pagnul-tehon.gaengon" pangutana sa mga katigulangan nga gekan na didtong dalana kay asuyan ka nila og unsa ang naa didto.." that principle will guide your confuse mind lynn i hope..

[imagine]

the past is the past and thats where it belongs

[grahamw48]

Wise words Moy.

[Moy]

i so wanted to help her Graham shame i cant talk to her personally and let her know stop tormenting herself of the past

[grahamw48]

I have the same bad habit.

Thanks for being our therapist.

[Moy]

well frankly i was more worst that you both actually there was a time where i have a suicidal attemp buried on my dark heart because i felt deeply in pain and agony and stress..you name it i have it..but from that i was mold to who i was now luckily

[ConfusedMe]

History serves as a reminder or a lesson. Make it as stepping stone to become a better person, more stronger and wiser

as you said its history a history should be completely destroy

[Moy]

History serves as a reminder or a lesson. Make it as stepping stone to become a better person, more stronger and wiser

very true and i very much agree confused.COM jokes..

“History informs us of past mistakes from which we can learn without repeating them. It also inspires us and gives confidence and hope bred of victories already won.”

" William Hastie quotes"

[sweetnote143]

letting go at times is hard task but if you hang to your past it will kept hunting you for the rest of your life and either it will just make you miserable/grumpy or a better person at the end..just "LET GO"

tama jud ka, moy! heartaches, pain, problems, stress, etc, are part of our life, but if you let these things get into you they will take you down...these will make you a bitter, grumpy, miserable person for the rest of your life.....my heart has been broken not only once but four times, I manage to pull myself up and live like crazy in love. Though my past made me a little bit cautious but I'm always looking forward to fall in love again though at the right time when I no longer have hang-ups and my heart is healed.

Lyn, stay strong for you and for your kids...I know that you can make it, based on what you've been posting here I know that you're starting to let go. It's hard but you can make it. Life is too beautiful, reach out and live more. even if our heart is breaking, like the song says, 'gotta live like we're dying'.

[pinay4uk]

Oh yeah I think I can make it! it's just the first few weeks and honestly the people here including u really helped. And well, the good thing there also is we're still friends, we still talk regularly yet. I guess this time is better coz it feels more relax coz I know my stand already and slowly I felt like I don't wanna end up with a man who always change his mind. I want a man with strong determination, who has fixed mind. I thought it's only women who change minds easy. But I was asked by a friend & I don't actually know what to answer...maybe u can help. If he is still regularly/constantly chatting with me and still offers help if ever I need help, what does it means then?u think he still has feelings for me?I myself can't tell coz he is also telling me to make friends with other men maybe i'll find the right one?but he also tells me that maybe for a long time he won't be involved with another relationship and he will prove that to me he said. Sounds confusing...whatever at least I am ok now.

[sars_notd_virus]

I guess this time is better coz it feels more relax coz I know my stand already and slowly I felt like I don't wanna end up with a man who always change his mind...whatever at least I am ok now.

good for you ......your slowly moving on!!

[sweetnote143]

If he is still regularly/constantly chatting with me and still offers help if ever I need help, what does it means then?u think he still has feelings for me?I myself can't tell coz he is also telling me to make friends with other men maybe i'll find the right one?but he also tells me that maybe for a long time he won't be involved with another relationship and he will prove that to me he said. Sounds confusing...whatever at least I am ok now.

good to know that you're moving on

I'm not really a good one to advice when it comes to men, my past relationships were all a mess. Though I have myself to blame too. But I've learned my lesson that never assume something and dont expect something when it comes to men. I guess we tend to put meanings to their actions toward us, but from their point it was nothing special. The best way to know if you have doubts and questions, is to ask directly and frankly. Expect to hear something from them you might not like to hear, most men are frank, dont beat around the bush.

When a man says 'let's just be friends', take it as it is. Even if he is confused what he really wanted, treating him as friends will give him the space he needs. Time can only tell if you are meant to be friends or more than friends.

About for a man to have a changeable mind, you'll be surprised how men can change their mind overnight. It's not really about being a man or a woman how a person can change her/his mind easily. It's our right to change our mind especially if we're not too sure of the result or the outcome of our decision. Though having a very changeable mind can make a person unreliable.