Oh dear, this really does seem a bad situation for you....and CRUEL, if I may say so.
Let's be frank, if a man truly loves a woman and wants to be with her, to marry her, then he wants the whole world to know.
I'd prefer to remain neutral on this, but my first instinct is to advise you to not let this person waste any more of your life and tears.
You are worth far more than that.
