"Whatever you hold in your mind will tend to occur in your life. If you continue to believe as you have always believed, you will continue to act as you have always acted. If you continue to act as you have always acted, you will continue to get what you have always gotten. If you want different results in your life or your work, all you have to do is change your mind." im sure yo know this. when i saw your message here at first i ignore it. but because it reminds me of my husband who is always a negative thinker.. no offense but i think she has her reasons too. u could have speak to her face to face before planning this things behind her back.
