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    Help guys, i'm confused with my boyfriend

    Hello everyone, i'm a newbie here and i'm reading the different forums here in filipinouk. I became interested in this forum cause i had a British boyfriend from London.... and i just wanna share some of my dilemmas in our relationship.


    I'm in a relationship with a British guy, we've been 5 months now, he is a Barrister in London and he has a daughter, he's a widow. We've been so intimate and all, we share dreams, enjoy each other and we talk a lot till morning (local time) and we even have a cyber intimate sex if that's what you call it, and i do that for the first time cause he insist that he will be the only one to see me nude. Then days past and we're still sweet to each other then he even ask my ring size and decided he will come here this end of November 2011 but then his daughter got sick and he told me his daughter need some rare herbal medicine which is already out-of-stock in London so he ask me if i can contact the source from Malaysia so i do it. Then when i contacted the supplier i relay to him the result the account # of the supplier and that the cost will be USD4000 all-in-all to be delivered here in my place cause they are visiting me. But then he asked me if i can pay for that i said i don't have any money cause i just quit my job so he says ok. But the other day he again suggested me if i can pay the half of it, i told him again i didn't have that money and i'm sick so it will be impossible, i said if its your daughter's health concern might as well cancel the flight tickets so he can buy the medicine since they don't have a plane and date yet and i can wait for him maybe next month or next year. He even ask why i don't have that kind of money and say i must start saving i was so upset that i told him i just quit my job and invest my money to a business so i don't have a stable profit yet....He even ask if i can borrow to anyone. I'm just wondering why a Barrister can't afford a medicine with the price he said is more cheap than in london, i know the plane tickets cost too much but now i don't know if he is telling the truth or not.... i even ask for her daughters picture but he does not give me he said the cord of the PC has a problem and so on... i love him so much but now i'm doubting him if he really love me..... now we're still chatting but there were few sweet words and just answering in a short word ... Am i just a panic woman or is there really something wrong? please can somebody tell me what our situation really is?
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    I'd like to ask you guys if its reasonable that my British widowed boyfriend ask me to pay for her daughters purchase medication when i recently quit my job. We've been in a relationship now for almost 5 months and we are so intimate that we even do some crazy net sex which he promise he will be the only one to see it, then he decided to come here this November i'm confused cause he still asking me if i can pay the half of the payment of the medicine which almost cause a hundred thousand in peso, i'm now doubting if he really love me or he is not true, cause he even always promise to show his daughters picture but till now i haven't see it... I know the plane ticket is really expensive but i said to cancel it so he can buy the medicine which he said its much cheaper near our country, i said let first give the priority to the child's health rather than seeing each other this month maybe next month or next year cause i'll be waiting for him cause i really love him.... but now i don't know if he is true... he even question why i don't have such money.... am i just panicking or he is someone else? please help


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    a london barrister i would say charges at least £400 an hour, and he doesn't have money

    he's giving his kid expensive herbal medicine , whats wrong with the NHS or Bupa

    cybersex, bit of a risk for a london barrister you will not know of 'dirty den' out of Eastenders

    i think you've been scammed, probably he's not even in the uk
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    I reckon he's in an Internet Cafe in Lagos Nigeria. I'd ignore any further communications and move on.


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    Proceed with caution, this sounds very very suspicious and doesn't add up. Also British men tend to be a lot more shy when talking about money they don't have, (they will boast, but rarely admit when things are wrong, stiff upper lip etc).


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    Definitely sounds like a Nigerian scam. A London barrister (in fact any British barrister) would definitely have the means to find the medication he needs for his daughter.

    Delete and block him from your contacts and move on


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    This is definitely an scammed..block that man before it get worse,it happened with my friend before,look like the-same story..


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    I agree what others think.
    I hope he didnt record the "thing"


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    I agree what everybody thinks... Better to stop talking to him and move on. I hope he didn't kept a copy of your intimate video chats
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    Quote Originally Posted by ynwa View Post
    I agree what others think.
    I hope he didnt record the "thing"

    Awww He is a Big scammer.. Don't let anyone fool you again with their dramas in life..

    and be very careful next time because I have a friend who did same thing (cyber sex) and the guy promised that he will be the one who will watch it but nah.. after how many days... she was just surprised that the guy shot her loads of naked pictures (without her knowing it) and posted it in the Porn sites.
    I really hope it will not happen to you!

    I'm sure you can find someone who will love you and respect you.. God bless you x
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    Thanx GraceAdam i needed that so much .... im just a little bit down for about a week now .......

    I only needed someone to talk to and i get this ....... .....


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    100% SCAM !

    I recommend that all you Filpinas use some common sense when chatting with foreigners. ....or at least follow your instincts. If you wouldn't want your parents to know about it... DON'T DO IT !

    So many Filipinas don't even bother to search on google to find out about the UK and life here.

    The average Barrister here is a pretty wealthy man, speaks perfect English, and the last thing he would need is to borrow money from a girl in a 3rd world country.

    I hope you will learn from this and warn your friends.

    I hope HE has his testicles cut off at some point in the near future.


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    Quote Originally Posted by grahamw48 View Post
    100% SCAM !

    I recommend that all you Filpinas use some common sense when chatting with foreigners. ....or at least follow your instincts. If you wouldn't want your parents to know about it... DON'T DO IT !

    So many Filipinas don't even bother to search on google to find out about the UK and life here.

    The average Barrister here is a pretty wealthy man, speaks perfect English, and the last thing he would need is to borrow money from a girl in a 3rd world country.

    I hope you will learn from this and warn your friends.

    I hope HE has his testicles cut off at some point in the near future.

    Thanx, i also search UK life or british guys, thats when i doubt it, i tried to make all the info fit to each other then i realize it, it was too late ... this really is so hard im already 34 and i got scammed hahahaha ..... im so ..... ahhh i'd like to punch him so much .... he really exploit my innocence ... im so ashamed of myself right now, i feel i'm like a slut ..... and a desperate woman .... I just think that God will never gave me this kind of problem if i can't solve it..... Thanx again guys .... im really pissed off i even made a painting for him as a gift for his birthday ....... this really is so devastating to think that christmas is so near and im here so sad....


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    Quote Originally Posted by Vische View Post
    this really is so hard im already 34 and i got scammed hahahaha ..... im so ..... ahhh i'd like to punch him so much .... he really exploit my innocence ... im so ashamed of myself right now, i feel i'm like a slut ..... and a desperate woman .... I just think that God will never gave me this kind of problem if i can't solve it..... Thanx again guys .... im really pissed off i even made a painting for him as a gift for his birthday ....... this really is so devastating to think that christmas is so near and im here so sad....
    dont be too hard on yourself...we all make mistakes...learn from your experience and move on....dont be ashamed of yourself, it happened, things happened, and you can't change that. focus on bouncing back, being back on your feet, free from emotional baggage. dont hate him also for what he has done, coz by hating it's only you who's going to suffer from it, bitterness is a cold company. DOnt be sad for being single, life goes on and life is not all about marriage or finding that special someone. when you open the door to the world, you'll be amazed how beautiful life is and wish you have all the time in the world to fully embrace and enjoy it.

    btw, welcome to the friendly forum
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    Quote Originally Posted by sweetnote143 View Post
    dont be too hard on yourself...we all make mistakes...learn from your experience and move on....dont be ashamed of yourself, it happened, things happened, and you can't change that. focus on bouncing back, being back on your feet, free from emotional baggage. dont hate him also for what he has done, coz by hating it's only you who's going to suffer from it, bitterness is a cold company. DOnt be sad for being single, life goes on and life is not all about marriage or finding that special someone. when you open the door to the world, you'll be amazed how beautiful life is and wish you have all the time in the world to fully embrace and enjoy it.

    btw, welcome to the friendly forum

    Thanx sweetnote, maybe i can move on but i guess it will take a lot of times.... and i don't hate him i even pity him for using people .... I guess im a little too down here, im a sunny person but now im like a rainmaker hahahahaha... i thank you all for supporting me ..... Salamat mga kaibigan ko ...


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    Quote Originally Posted by Vische View Post
    Hello everyone, i'm a newbie here and i'm reading the different forums here in filipinouk.
    Hello ... and here ... where you can rely upon friendly - yet frank, down to earth advice.

    Quote Originally Posted by vische View Post
    I became interested in this forum cause i had a British boyfriend from London.... and i just wanna share some of my dilemmas in our relationship.
    Whoa ... ... STOP there! You HAD a British "boyfriend" from London.

    Quote Originally Posted by Vische View Post
    I'm in a relationship with a British guy, we've been 5 months now,
    ... you're NOT ... at least, not any longer ...

    Quote Originally Posted by Vische View Post

    he is a Barrister in London and he has a daughter, he's a widow. We've been so intimate and all, we share dreams, enjoy each other and we talk a lot till morning (local time) and we even have a cyber intimate sex if that's what you call it, and i do that for the first time cause he insist that he will be the only one to see me nude. Then days past and we're still sweet to each other then he even ask my ring size and decided he will come here this end of November 2011 but then his daughter got sick and he told me his daughter need some rare herbal medicine which is already out-of-stock in London so he ask me if i can contact the source from Malaysia so i do it. Then when i contacted the supplier i relay to him the result the account # of the supplier and that the cost will be USD4000 all-in-all to be delivered here in my place cause they are visiting me. But then he asked me if i can pay for that i said i don't have any money cause i just quit my job so he says ok. But the other day he again suggested me if i can pay the half of it, i told him again i didn't have that money and i'm sick so it will be impossible, i said if its your daughter's health concern might as well cancel the flight tickets so he can buy the medicine since they don't have a plane and date yet and i can wait for him maybe next month or next year. He even ask why i don't have that kind of money and say i must start saving i was so upset that i told him i just quit my job and invest my money to a business so i don't have a stable profit yet....He even ask if i can borrow to anyone. I'm just wondering why a Barrister can't afford a medicine with the price he said is more cheap than in london, i know the plane tickets cost too much but now i don't know if he is telling the truth or not.... i even ask for her daughters picture but he does not give me he said the cord of the PC has a problem and so on...
    ... it's highly IMPROBABLE he's a barrister - an unscrupulous basrd, more like! One of many, unfortunately, who carve out a living by preying on unsuspecting, vulnerable young women - otherwise, WHY else would an affluent member of the English legal profession expect someone in your position to even "chip in" with the cost of medication his daughter [purportedly] needs from abroad? What's to hinder him paying for everything himself?

    Quote Originally Posted by Vische View Post
    i love him so much but now i'm doubting him if he really love me..... now we're still chatting but there were few sweet words and just answering in a short word ... Am i just a panic woman or is there really something wrong? please can somebody tell me what our situation really is?
    ... I realise it ISN'T the sort of reply you'd been hoping to receive. But this man is a charlatan! And the sooner you cease all contact - the better!


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    i agree .. most likely a nigerian, they tend to spend all day online scamming


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    most of those scammers pretend to be either a lawyer or a professor tell him you can only afford to send him 100 pesos and see if he grabs it


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    Filipinas....ask your 'boyfriend' to ring you and listen to his fine 'English' accent. lol

    Oh, he's back again :



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    At least you've practised safe sex


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    Quote Originally Posted by gWaPito View Post
    At least you've practised safe sex
    Thank God for that ...


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    Do you know guys of some website Authority i can tell my stories and block him in the net or atleast banned him in the net cause he still have some girls linked with him ....

    I don't want other people specially ladies to get scammed by him...

    This is a hard thing for me, to trust and yet get scammed i don't know how will move on.... now im broken hearted and devastated ....


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    Quote Originally Posted by grahamw48 View Post

    ... because - by George - there's VIRTUALLY no chance of him buying the Durex!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Arthur Little View Post
    ... I realise it ISN'T the sort of reply you'd been hoping to receive. But this man is a charlatan. And the sooner you cease all contact the better!
    Mr. Arthur Little can i send you his pictures so you can warn others or at least even warn that real person that his picture is been used, thanx this really means a lot to me ...


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    Quote Originally Posted by grahamw48 View Post
    Filipinas....ask your 'boyfriend' to ring you and listen to his fine 'English' accent. lol

    Oh, he's back again :

    When he call at first he has an english accent that's why i thought it was true, my gosh i'm so stupid to think like that.... Thanx anyway .... now im really beginning to think i really have a curse with guys... I'm so devastated, i cannot tell this to my parents they are very old and my brothers might get very angry .... i think i can do this, you guys are the only one i can talked to for now....


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    I take it he couldn't afford a webcam either.


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    Quote Originally Posted by grahamw48 View Post
    I take it he couldn't afford a webcam either.
    The containers carrying all the webcams must be bypassing Africa
    ...nobody seems to have one there....apparently alot of men are posing as women...you can guess the rest


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    just like many have said on here , tell him to swing next time, if there is a next time, why oh why are not all men like me.


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    Those Nigerians can be a real pain....thanks to ebay one of those cost me 40 quid...he kept bidding for an item I was selling....he claimed he was in the states but, wanted the item shipped directly to an Nigerian address.

    Ebay were having none of it, saying he was a customer in America.

    Twice I put it up for auction, twice this idiot won it...i refused to pay ebay hence, im no longer selling there....thanks Nigeria


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    if u do go online with him again on cam and i would suggest u dont, just ask him to show you his watch or a clock and see if there is an 8 hour time difference as Nigeria is only 7 hours behind you. Another possibillity is to ask him to show you the front page of a newspaper, make a note of the papers name and ask on here if its British. You can also ask him what the temperature is as currently here in london this weekend it is likely to be around 12 centigrade yet Nigeria is maybe in the 30's.
    If he doesnt respond or makes excuses u can be sure hes a scammer, look up nigerian 419 scams on the net and u can read about what they get up to and more often that not they use the professional title of barrister to give u the impression they are wealthy and totally trustworthy upstanding members of the community.

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