Stewart, thanks for your update, and let me join the other members in wishing you all the best for the future.
Pretending to be ill in any circumstances is not only dishonest, it deserves contempt and is despicable when you yourself had a serious illness last year.
Please be reassured by the supportive messages you have already received. Don't blame yourself - we have all made judgements which, with the benefit of hindsight, have proved not to be for the best.
Please also remember that there is nothing in your " lifestyle choices " which could have caused your particular cancer. From what you have told us, it's likely you're cured, both from cancer and your recent relationship.
Sincere good wishes for 2012 and beyond .