Like any forum it is expected to hear alternative views, but to be honest mate I am not at all sure what you are doing on this particular type of forum out of the millions more out there.
I would think most on here have weighed up their options, thought of all the disadvantages and played around in their heads with similar concerns you've raised (and thats outwith family and friends judgments) be it racist, agest etc
But for what ever reasons have decided to persue their filipino in marriage etc
Personally my fiancee is well off (earning more than me) her parents are very well off, and her family back in the phils dont and wont expect anything from me.
In fact if anybody could be accused of using somebody, it would as likely to be aimed at me.