Arggghhhhhhhhhhh philippines!

[maria_and_matt]

As some of you know, from my previous post like half a decade ago ) I was the filipina who lived in the UK for 20 years who didnt want to apply for a british passport. Well finally 2 years ago I did it! I am now a brit! Officially...
Now I am back in the Philippines been here for about 4 months now going 5. There is a family crisis that we are trying to resolve. Whilst being here I thought that hmmm I am home, but it doesnt feel like home anymore. More and more I miss the UK! it is so shocking as I've also thought I hated it there, that life here in the phils is way better.
I miss my british life, i miss going to the cashpoint and having to worry if it is offline! and what is with filipinos and ATM's they take forever! they put their card in pray the rosary, enter their pin say prayer a bit more, enters the amount says another prayer money comes out of the atm at a very slow rate and again they put their card in for what???? I am always stuck in a line trying to get cash out, on average they take at least 5 mins/person! In the uk it takes but 1 minute :((.
and what is with filipinos not forming a line! in the checkouts, banks, drugstore! get in line people!!!! it so annoys me when i patiently wait and somebody comes along and cuts the queue!
when in the cinema, turn off ur moblies and refrain from talking!!!! you are not gonna die if you sit there and watch a movie without having to answer txts and calls.
and for the able filipinos use the escalators! lifts are for the elderly!
the disabled toilets are for disabled people, the mother and baby changing rooms are not for everybodys use, and most of all flush the toilet!
i can go on and on and on, but i feel my highblood pressure rising

to sum this is all: I MISS THE UK, I MISS THE PEOPLE, I MISS QUEING, I MISS THE WEATHER, AND MOST OF ALL I LOVE LIFE THERE! THE SOONER I GET 'HOME' THE BETTER!

rant over

[Marie]

ohhhh.....you really used the life in UK.... true ...so many differences but this is the Philippines all about...as the saying goes...we cannot teach a new trick to an old dog....lol

[joebloggs]

maybe you've been out in the sun too long Marie

i bet you miss your dog the most

[Englishman2010]

I MISS THE UK, I MISS THE PEOPLE, I MISS QUEING, I MISS THE WEATHER, AND MOST OF ALL I LOVE LIFE THERE! THE SOONER I GET 'HOME' THE BETTER!

rant over

You're definitely a Brit now

One of my pet hates is people who don't queue either When I was younger and more polite I wouldn't say anything to queue dodgers, but now I'm older, wiser and don't care about causing a scene in public, I tell people to get back in line

[KeithD]

Hi Marie

I well remember your rants about the UK and how much you wanted to go back 'home'. As you've now realised, when you feel a little homesick in the UK you only remember the happy times you had back in the Phil not all the annoying things. Now you are back there you've realised that annoying list is very very long compared to the one you had in the UK.

I hope you sort out whatever problems you have

[grahamw48]

Another 20 years and you'll find EVERYTHING annoying WHEREVER you are.

You're just entering the transitional stage.

[Tawi2]

There is a family crisis that we are trying to resolve.

Every week in Pinas is family-crisis week My mates in Pinas at the moment,he keeps TXT'ing me that its so hot,he is Canadian every week in winter he keeps TXT'ing me that its sooooo cold,the grass is always greener till you jump that fence Relax and enjoy your holiday

[Moy]

i miss to be home (Philippines) i miss the wet market/palengke ..the dust all of it the noise the jeepney eveything

no douBT UK is a beautiful country indeed but WHATS in your bloodline remain who you are!

[maria_and_matt]

Hi Marie

I well remember your rants about the UK and how much you wanted to go back 'home'. As you've now realised, when you feel a little homesick in the UK you only remember the happy times you had back in the Phil not all the annoying things. Now you are back there you've realised that annoying list is very very long compared to the one you had in the UK.

I hope you sort out whatever problems you have

i am now older and wiser! i love the UK!!!!!!!!

[maria_and_matt]

maybe you've been out in the sun too long Marie

i bet you miss your dog the most

yes i miss her

[Arthur Little]

Every week in Pinas is family-crisis week

... not every week, according to my wife ... every DAY, more like!

[raynaputi]

Every week in Pinas is family-crisis week

... not every week, according to my wife ... every DAY, more like!

Well it wasn't for me when I was there..I love being in the Philippines despite of the bad things..You won't feel like that if you accept what you have or can't have in any place you live..Everything is just a matter of acceptance about the situation you are in. I got lots of friends and relatives living overseas for a very long time. But you would still hear them wanting to go back and live in the Philippines and would want to stay for good whenever they have vacation, despite the crisis that you guys are referring to.

[Arthur Little]

Yes ... I remember only too well, the frustrations encountered during my second visit: faulty ATMs (marginally better, I suppose, than being charged the equivalent of 'x' number of dollars each time I wanted to cash a single 'American Express' Travellers Cheque when I was there for the first time two months earlier) my place in the Shopping Mall queues specifically "reserved" for elderly customers (which I was) being usurped by people half my age jostling for first~come, first~served positions, ... to name but a couple of the most infuriating!!

Mind you, the seemingly interminable wait for my wife's spousal visa practically throughout the latter period, didn't exactly help matters.

[Arthur Little]

Well it wasn't for me when I was there..I love being in the Philippines despite of the bad things..You won't feel like that if you accept what you have or can't have in any place you live..Everything is just a matter of acceptance about the situation you are in. I got lots of friends and relatives living overseas for a very long time. But you would still hear them wanting to go back and live in the Philippines and would want to stay for good whenever they have vacation, despite the crisis that you guys are referring to.

s Rayna ... as I've highlighted in your response. After all, the Philippines is where you were born and bred. And you're right ... it's a question of acceptance - adjusting to ... and fitting in with, the environment - WHEREVER one finds oneself - as Graham mentioned earlier. At the present time, however, I'm receiving ongoing medical surveillance in the wake of my urological operation last November ... and any treatment arising from this seems likely to continue for the rest of my life.

So, please forgive any apparent hint of cynicism in my two previous posts; I assure you no offence is intended. Truth be told - in spite of what I said - I am a great "champion" of the Philippines ... and, particularly its people, whom I cherish as being amongst the friendliest to be found anywhere. But ... given my current medical circumstances ... I have to be thankful for living here in the UK with its National Health Service. Guess we Brits are spoilt for choice in that respect!

Mind you, the seemingly interminable wait for my wife's spousal visa practically throughout the latter period, didn't exactly help matters.

Hopefully, you'll also appreciate that I'd probably have felt the same wherever I'd happened to be in that situation.

[raynaputi]

So, please forgive any apparent hint of cynicism in my two previous posts; I assure you no offence is intended. Truth be told - in spite of what I said - I am a great "champion" of the Philippines ... and, particularly its people, whom I cherish as being amongst the friendliest to be found anywhere. But ... given my current medical circumstances ... I have to be thankful for living here in the UK with its National Health Service. Guess we Brits are spoilt for choice in that respect!

I'm not offended or anything Arthur, so no need to say sorry or anything I'm only saying that we know it's not always good wherever we go so we need not expect lots of things. It's up to us to make the journey worthwhile and not the people or things surrounding us.

[Arthur Little]

I MISS THE UK, I MISS THE PEOPLE, I MISS QUEING, I MISS THE WEATHER, AND MOST OF ALL I LOVE LIFE THERE! THE SOONER I GET 'HOME' THE BETTER!

rant over

"How do you solve a problem like Maria's?" (Extracted from the film: The Sound of Music' ) Ah, Maria ... peoples' feelings change ... they [usually] adapt to their surroundings in due course of time - WHEREVER they decide to settle. But it's good to see you posting on the forum again. "Haste ye back" ... as we say up here in "Jockland"!

[Moy]

Well it wasn't for me when I was there..I love being in the Philippines despite of the bad things..You won't feel like that if you accept what you have or can't have in any place you live..Everything is just a matter of acceptance about the situation you are in. I got lots of friends and relatives living overseas for a very long time. But you would still hear them wanting to go back and live in the Philippines and would want to stay for good whenever they have vacation, despite the crisis that you guys are referring to.

well said rayna..and i do agree and understand your point is..no doubt im happy here in the UK but to where we come from you cant ever replace..feeling might change.. people too but not the root that molds the person you are now

[Moy]

i am now older and wiser! i love the UK!!!!!!!!

me too but still a part of you still remain on the place to where you been mold as a human i suppose

[maria_and_matt]

I am getting old, i have no patience for these )
I am so used to orderly queue, clean toilets,
people who hold the door for others. There is
no doubt that filipinos are a happy bunch
but when it comes down to it they are rude.
Just today i was in the mall and dear mother
wanted to use the loo as her diaper is full,
she needed to change so off to the toilet we
go, went to the disabled and elderly we found
about 4 middle aged women waiting to use the
elderly loo, i politely said that is for the OAP's
one woman looked back and said she doesnt
care, she was there first. What is wrong with
the world?? Is there no respect left for the elderlies?
I can go on and on but i wont. It is my opinion
that i prefer my life in the uk. I enjoy the peace
and quiet, hearing only my dog barking )

[maria_and_matt]

But after saying all that nothing beats the food, shopping and entertainment here

[Terpe]

I am getting old, i have no patience for these )
I am so used to orderly queue, clean toilets,
people who hold the door for others. There is
no doubt that filipinos are a happy bunch
but when it comes down to it they are rude.
Just today i was in the mall and dear mother
wanted to use the loo as her diaper is full,
she needed to change so off to the toilet we
go, went to the disabled and elderly we found
about 4 middle aged women waiting to use the
elderly loo, i politely said that is for the OAP's
one woman looked back and said she doesnt
care, she was there first. What is wrong with
the world?? Is there no respect left for the elderlies?
I can go on and on but i wont. It is my opinion
that i prefer my life in the uk. I enjoy the peace
and quiet, hearing only my dog barking )

Like me, you must be living a somewhat sheltered life in UK.
Currently we are mostly enjoying our life in the village.

Before we moved here in our village we lived in the town-centre. Not quite the same at all.
I have lived in a few large cities around the world and yet on returning to UK after years away I saw rude, stressed, miserable and scruffy people, constant queue jumping and hostile aggressive behaviour with a 'couldn't care less' attitude from young and old especially unruly screaming kids.

Got a little bit used to it now though.

[sars_notd_virus]

hello ate maria you sound like a proper brit!! stop moaning!! hehehe
anyway, enjoy the sun, food, shopping and entertainment ..you'll definitely miss it when u get back to the UK

[maria_and_matt]

Hahaha mari ganda! Been here for over 4 months now i am so ready to go home, i dont think i will miss pinas anymore, so very stressful!

Yup terpe hubby got me tucked nicely in our close, with no interaction to the real world

[Tawi2]

Home is where the heart is

[Moy]

i dont think i will miss pinas anymore, so very stressful!

no matter what part of the world you live..being stressful of life is already part of our living i supposed

[Terpe]

no matter what part of the world you live..being stressful of life is already part of our living i supposed

I think that's true many times.

But.................how about this, when I lived in Japan I truthfully never had any stressful life (apart from the usual stresses of working in a safety critical industry).
I know that a large part of this was not being culturally immersed in certain aspects of being Japanese, but nevertheless those were the happiest times so far.
My wife feels just the same.

[Moy]

I think that's true many times.

But.................how about this, when I lived in Japan I truthfully never had any stressful life (apart from the usual stresses of working in a safety critical industry).
I know that a large part of this was not being culturally immersed in certain aspects of being Japanese, but nevertheless those were the happiest times so far.
My wife feels just the same.

i must say thats partly true terpe and i agree in some point..! being stressful is in each indivual cases really regardless of the way of living you are involve

[grahamw48]

When I feel stressed I just get another piercing.
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[Moy]

When I feel stressed I just get another piercing.
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this is me when i get stress

[grahamw48]

Moy....you've just given me blood pressure you naughty lady !