my mom is in a residential home, and before we 'put' her in the home, we looked at about 6 local ones, and believe me, i was horrified by most of them, they looked like Lunatic Asylums from the 1950's. i wouldn't even put a scouser, or my dog in there, never mind my mom.

on another point about care homes.. a warning from me..

in the end we found one within a few mins walking distance from my sisters house, and its a nice place. and they charge more than the council will pay, so i have to pay a 'top up fee' every month. but iam not moaning for once , after the nhs dumped my mom on socal services(nhs is told to, so ss can charge you), those people in the SS wanted her to start paying for her care and her residential home, oh with the top up fee, it comes to £465 a week , always ready for a with the gov and social services as they wanted to put a charge on her house, they even tried to blackmail my sister, into signing papers or they would start charging my mom straight away. but, there are ways around everythnig, well i found out, if a relative who is under 16 of my moms lives at her house permenanlty they cannot take the value of her home when they do a financial assement of her, and oh bit of luck, my wife, 6yr old daughter moved into my moms house 6 months before she had a breakdown (major reason her 3rd husband dying on her birthday ). i dont see why my mom should have to pay, shes been widowed 3 times, her husbands pensions should cover any fees, and they also take all her pension and benefits off her, shes left with about £18 a month . so the kind city of salford is paying for her. this scandal is worse than the visa one, where the husband or wife might have to sell thier family home to pay for the care for the other partner.. its shocking

just a warning to others if you have elderly parents, do something to prevent social services forcing your parents to sell thier house before its too late.

in my moms care home ,there are 3 kind pinoys care assistants