thanks @joebloggs.......you're the best...
ps...i wonder whats the difference between these type of visas and on what criteria they are granted, 'visa to join parent', 'visa to acc parent' and indefinite leave to enter..although i've got little ideas maybe some of you guys can enlighten me. i have tried searching on the net and the ukba websites, i could not find more infos on the first 2 types of visas mentioned. thank you.