Bride to exspected to stay home before wedding

[chippy]

thanks for you fun reply mate it was just somethink she was telling me today her parents want her to do.

Originally posted by admin@Aug 1 2005, 07:05 PM
It's not a custom, but they are probably just protecting her the best they can, and she shows good qualities by respecting their wishes.

Better than a woman who buggers off out every night, and turns up at 4am every morning, drunk, with her knickers hanging out of her handbag (This description has nothing in common with your average English lady :lol: ).

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[peterdavid]

Originally posted by chippy@Aug 1 2005, 07:31 PM
thanks for you fun reply mate it was just somethink she was telling me today her parents want her to do.

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Do her parents mean she can't go out with any one EXCEPT you, or are you included in the list of undesirables she can no longer consort with until the big day?

[chippy]

Her parents say shes not allowed out at night on her own or with anyone soon and always ask her were she is going. she can go with me if i was there but they say its custom for her to stay at home until the wedding.

Originally posted by peterdavid@Aug 2 2005, 08:44 AM
Do her parents mean she can't go out with any one EXCEPT you, or are you included in the list of undesirables she can no longer consort with until the big day?

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[peterdavid]

Originally posted by chippy@Aug 2 2005, 12:18 PM
Her parents say shes not allowed out at night on her own or with anyone soon and always ask her were she is going. she can go with me if i was there but they say its custom for her to stay at home until the wedding.

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Well, I wouldn't say it's exactly 'normal' - more the diktat of ultra-conservative parents, it seems to me. Does she live in a fairly remote area? My wife balked at the idea when she read this and commented "they must live in the province" ('Province' being that all-encapsulating filipino word meaning 'anywhere except Manila&#39.

Doesn't sound like anything to worry about, unless you think your future in-laws are going to start becoming a nuisance and asking for a dowry or something (or even worse, regular payments for life to "help the family" after the wedding, after they "helped you" by making sure she didn't see any other men). In which case, grin and bear it, get her out of there and never look back.

[chippy]

Thank for reply mate firstly i trust her 100% secondly yes her parents are sensative i know what it is now after speaking to her this is also listed on web site its more supastition i would say Altar-bound couples are accident-prone and therefore must avoid long drives before their wedding day. * * * but she dont drive and they still think somethink will happen to her. also mate she lives in cebu city.

Originally posted by peterdavid@Aug 2 2005, 01:18 PM
Well, I wouldn't say it's exactly 'normal' - more the diktat of ultra-conservative parents, it seems to me. Does she live in a fairly remote area? My wife balked at the idea when she read this and commented "they must live in the province" ('Province' being that all-encapsulating filipino word meaning 'anywhere except Manila&#39.

Doesn't sound like anything to worry about, unless you think your future in-laws are going to start becoming a nuisance and asking for a dowry or something (or even worse, regular payments for life to "help the family" after the wedding, after they "helped you" by making sure she didn't see any other men). In which case, grin and bear it, get her out of there and never look back.

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