Hello Stuart, welcome to this friendly forum

first thing you need to do is planning , plan to visit and met her in person. so, had a possibility for you to bring her in uk, then you can try to apply soon a general tourist visa after meetings.

Stu, i am granted a general visit visa in 7 days.
i met my partner last year 13th of october, he stay with me for 21 days, (happy spending time each other, love blossoms).. when he back to devon, he immediately processing hes documents and send it to me by courier.

i further to explain it to you soon and i will posted it you how we build our application...but as what i said now. MEET HER FIRST

Don't to much worry of your situation that you are disable .. im sure you can get a good lady. just be positive all is well.

Goodluck

Anna