Is it proper or not?
Hi guys, especially to all British man who are married to Filipinas. I just want to ask if a wife for you here in the UK have the right to access to their husband's social network account like Facebook? Or phone messages?... I want to understand about it...if it is proper or not...because as far as I know, a good marriage shares and open everything...please give me your views about this.
For me trust is everything in a marriage, so yes, personally I'd be happy to share facebook, messages etc.
My fiancee has full access to my FB, and is also a member on here...though she doesn't post.
I have nothing to hide, and I don't think she has either.
April ....... I am a British woman living in UK and I wouldn't dream of accessing any of my partner's accounts, emails, cell/ mobile phone messages or anything else. Each of us is entitled to a bit of privacy, whether married or not and I respect that. I would add that we both also totally trust one another and are not facebook users anyway.
Occasionally my mahal wants to look around my messages, she starts off joking but I feel a seriousness to the question so I let her have a nose.
I got nothing in there to hide anyway...
If you have nothing to hide, then you have nothing to worry about. But, in no way is it god given right for anyone to 'expect' that of anyone, married or not. Just because you are in the uk, morality and privacy remain the same.
If you want your dreams to come true ...... first you have to wake up
Facebook and other so called "social networking" sites are the cause of many problems the reason why I have nothing to do with them - that's aside from not wanting Mr Mark Finkleberg or whoever to use my data
no.
its not proper unless you are a proper plonker and under the thumb to boot.
i have my fiancee password and she has mine 4 facebook mail we have nothing to hide so trust is everything if you have no trust you will never have a good relationship
At our pre-marriage seminar for a church wedding (not the DSWD one)(conducted by the nuns in Visayan so I understood about 5%) three things stuck out for me
1) the wife has full rights to the husbands pay, overtime and commission
2) the wife should have full access to the husbands phone to check txts and calls (not sure they've heard of email yet)
3) the contraceptive pill WILL give you cancer
And of course if the church teaches this then it must be right. My asawa never has load so uses my phone anyway but there's nothing to hide.
I am confuse....I want our relationship to be open...I have opened everything from him...he knows my social network account...but he don't want me to know his and he put a lock on his phone messages which I already accessed before and there was no problem until now that it has a password. I feel restricted...I believe that he have nothing to hide but I will feel relieved if he can share it to me or open it. If he has nothing to hide, why lock it?
When I was in UK, I go check my husband's phone once in a while coz' I go paranoid that he has someone else, fortunately I had nothing to worry about. I realized I should give him a bit of privacy even then we're married now. And when I am suspicious for something I just talk to him and let him know the things that bothers me. respect and trust is very important factor in a marriage/relationship.
"other half" mean to me that you have to share and be open...trust is also the name of an ingredient...but how could I trust him if he even put lock on his messages? Meaning he's hiding something from me....I can't feel that I am the other half but just a partner....
I know how you feel. Try to talk to him, tell him the things that bothers you. Guys could be like that.Originally Posted by aprilmaejon
Make a tampo mode and i'm sure he would ask you whats wrong? then tell him everything (not sure if its a good suggestion)
Thanks to all of your views guys...we've talked about it last night and he told me his reason...he said he don't want me to read over his messages or acting like a suspicious girlfriend....but the more he have lock it, the more that I feel so aweful now. :-)
:-(
as in our case..we both have access to our fb's and phones but am not bother to check it or him to mine rather than our bank account lol.
well seriously speaking if u both feel secured about each other checking fb's phones emails are becoming nonsense and not an issue at all. I do believe in marriage a little privacy wont do any harm. Each of us needs own space somehow.
When we got married, the reverend said for a successful marriage, that there should be no secrets between us and that we should think as one.....
Lastlid, I would really agree with that...no secrets to hide...share and open everything that's why I feel so bad now that my partner doesn't share or open that to me....
Trust plays important part of marriage.. My husband and I share everything.. mobile, facebook, email even his bank accounts..
you are just a human..we have differences and if you are happy to do that same as your husband is comfortable then i cant see any problem with that at all..
A place for everything, everything in its place.
The easiest way to make him protect his private space even more is to become paranoid about it.
What if he is planning a special weekend away or a surprise present or flowers....???? When a guy is tring to be romantic or do something special for his lady, there is nothing worse than a snooping partner to spoil the whole atmosphere of what he is doing.
He brought you here to the Uk, he loves you, you love him...... just leave it!!
If you want your dreams to come true ...... first you have to wake up
we can only be a human in such a way..am afraid its how we handle and control over the emotion
A place for everything, everything in its place.
Sigh....
Anyway, thank you for all of your views guys...appreciated it a lot. Many many many thanks...
Except for christmas and birthdays of course.....
TRUST is the foundation of every relationship..
let me ask you... do you trust him? why do you have/need to check his phone and messages?
but if you have any doubt about his feelings for you or you feel like he's hiding something from you , then talk to him again.. don't give yourself headaches!
or better yet, lock your phone too!
Yes I trust him...but now that he lock it, I don't think so. I was happy to think that everything was open last time until now that there's already a restriction.
It's not that I want to check like me having a suspicion, it's all about him trusting me in a way of letting me open it even though it's not necessary....just like you guys, everything are open...you trusted your partner and allowed them to have an access...no restriction...and your partners are happy with that and there is trust to both sides.
Which means you dont trust him....right? You cant have it both ways..unless you married the priest?
Damn...What is it with women?
Some stuff can remain private .. or would that mean hes having an affair?...
No way would I let my wife/gf/SO have this amount of access. nor would I expect it of her.
Besides if i wanted to cheat I would be a damm site more clever than to use my normal modes of communication
Sounds like its a doomed relationship to me - the more you insist the more he will feel he is being accused and you will just drive him away
Whoosh
I'd say it's not a nice suggestion - if he's not had a taste of tampo before he might react unpleasantly. IMHO Tampo is a very infantile attitudeMake a tampo mode and i'm sure he would ask you whats wrong? then tell him everything (not sure if its a good suggestion
Yes, when my wife uses it, it is like she has gone back to being a 14 year old.....
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