sorry guys, but i thought i had to explain a few things..
nothing wrong with offering advice and help, its one of the reasons why scouser keith created this forum
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i'm a user on a few forums, and they get idiots - as this forum does to, and no i'm not saying jameskirk is one of them, who get a buzz or something from posting messages for advice and help, in thier posts they ask for help, other users give advice, and then they make another post in a different section asking for advice again but with completey different information from thier previous post. its the idiots out there, who come across forums like this and have nothing to do in their dinner hour or work time, and make up
stories. you dont get to see them all as the mods have deleted them. so mods look at a new users first post and decide wether this new user is just a
or really wants to contribute and be a member of the forum. sometimes the mods get it wrong, for a number of reasons..
for me in jameskirk first post its the tone of his post, its a fairly negative post for a new user,
'there are many filipina who will marry just to get out of poverty since philippines is a very poverty stricken country' - this happens in every country and culture, its nothing to do with being a filipina - look at Anna Nicole Smith
, I'am sure everyone knows about povery in the philippines, this could have offended some filipina users on here, who have married brits and also their husbands, by suggesting that '
many' filipina only marry to get out of poverty
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but there are those filipina who are really bad, e.g. gold diggers, those who will depart after arriving at your country, those who got ill will, those with bad attitude, these filipinas are the ones you guys should avoid' .. again really negative statement, there are many reasons why filipina's go back home, thier husband is a
, they miss their family, culture shock
or lonely, in the UK 1/3 of marriages end in divorce for what ever reason, so you could assume 1/3 of filipina's married to brits will end the same way, common sense says you dont marry some one who is only after your money, and who wants to marry someone with a bad attitude , who you cannot get along with ?.
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i do assume you cannot really spot someone especially if you're not familiar our culture and our way of living here. sometimes just by personally conversing with someone i can easily spot these types as to whether they are really worth the effort or not.'
for most people on here, who are engaged or married to filipina's, he did assume wrong, as most are aware of and familiar with the way of living there, again scam marriages and gold diggers are in every culture not just in the philippines.
maybe jameskirk your not fimiliar with our english culture, and the tone of your post upset some users on here, i wonder if i took advice from you, nearly 8 years ago, and would you have told me my wife of 5 years is
'whether they are really worth the effort or not', and i've been there, after chatting for a few months to the filipina online, who is now my wife, she told me she had to get a job quick, she needed about £1,000 to pay for her uni fees next month, as her sister who was working was supose to pay it , she had spent the money, a gold digger ?? so i said i would send her the money (scouser keith, i was well off in them days
), she told her mom, and i got a letter from her mom, saying thanks , but no thanks, she would not take my help, after weeks of me nearly begging her mom to take the money, she finally gave in, and said she would take it as a loan, and near 8 years later, and nearly 5 years married, what advice would you have given me then ? was she worth it taking the risk ???. many filipina have a lot of pride, and i know me offering her money, dented my wifes and her moms pride. filipina's are proud people, so dont put them down
for me the tone and content of your post offended me a bit, but then maybe its a culture thing
you are right thou, there are gold diggers out there, and new users need to be warned. but none on here ,, i hope
anyway no one is dead
so