Hi very sorry to hear about your bad news and fully understand how you are feeling at the moment. Perhaps if you can post the reason for the refusal I'm sure our experts will be able to offer some guidance.
I must say I find it very strange that in my wifes refusal amongst other things the ECO rediculousiy refers to the Abandonment of her child and yet in your case appears to be giving you the ok to abandon your child. Very strange indeed.
Please stay strong and send a letter of reconsideration and please god this silly decision will be put right.
We are all behind you
