Im really thinking why some guy in the right age, right status and promise a lot of things to a woman like it is so serious but doesn't want to get married..
How will a woman know if this guy wants to be with her for the rest of her life or just enjoyed her company now cause she is still a beautiful young woman?
this is really a confusion to me, for all i know i've met a couple of guys and they skip out when they heard about the marriage thing
Commitment? Making a decision? Being Responsible? All seems too difficult for some people.
The million dollar question, Vische. My wife's sister has just split up irreversibly after barely a year or so of marriage. I have seen their wedding pictures. She will have had no idea how short her marriage was due to last....and she had known the man she had married for years.Originally Posted by Vische
Easy....How will a woman know if this guy wants to be with her for the rest of her life or just enjoyed her company now cause she is still a beautiful young woman?
There are women like that too, it is just hard finding a partner with the same ideas of commitment
The more you put into a good relationship the more better it is for both.
Mick
Already married ?
I had no SERIOUS desire to get married right up to meeting the ex when I was 38....and actually wish I'd remained single now.
Some people are happy being single.
You need to to do some serious talking (not nagging) and hopefully you'll receive an honest answer from the guy.
Each person will have their own reasons. We can only guess,
Yeah i know its quite the factors but if the guy demands something from you but does not want to get married, what does it mean, the girl is just a past time?
Yeah Mick, i guess its hard to be on the same page afterall .... thanksThere are women like that too, it is just hard finding a partner with the same idears of commitment
The more you put into a good relationship the more better it is for both.
Mick
Thanks Lastlid, this video is quite good Cher, winona and kat are so young
Oh i guess i just let it be, what will be will be ...
Yeah i guess but since he doesn't divulge what really happen in his past is really hard to understand what he wantsAlready married ?
I had no SERIOUS desire to get married right up to meeting the ex when I was 38....and actually wish I'd remained single now.
Some people are happy being single.
You need to to do some serious talking (not nagging) and hopefully you'll receive an honest answer from the guy.
Each person will have their own reasons. We can only guess,its like im reading a different book ...
I think there is always going to be an element of risk.Thanks Lastlid, this video is quite good Cher, winona and kat are so young
Oh i guess i just let it be, what will be will be ...
In the case of my wife's sister, I was so shocked given that the Philippine attitude towards divorce is so strict. All the more reason to try and get it right first time....
Yeah i guess so but it just confuse me since i thought we're on the same page, but
I envy you guys cause all of you seem to be very serious when you search for your partners here in the Philippines, guess im out of range with luck with guys hahahaha
Vische, it's an age old question with no 'simple fix'.I envy you guys cause all of you seem to be very serious when you search for your partners here in the Philippines, guess im out of range with luck with guys hahahaha
But it seems to me you already know and understand the issues. You already display most of the qualities and wisdom in identification of the solutions.
But........
Maybe your confusion is really a question about commitment in finally deciding the way?
If your partner doesn't even want to share his past with you, why would you be thinking about a serious relationship with him, let alone marriage ?
hmmm,,,that reminded me of my ex....It is only now that I recall we never talk about marriage after 4 yrs of relationshipIf your partner doesn't even want to share his past with you, why would you be thinking about a serious relationship with him, let alone marriage ?
I finally realized he is one of those British guys who just doesn't embrace commitment!
My friends say that he must have preferred the local girl (an English woman) over me not because he can no longer afford me but because he didn't want to miss his daily dose
I felt bad because I really thought he is real but I guess I fell into the wrong guy. Glad now that we are done.
over the years i have seen friends who have lived together for 4 or 5 yrs, and quite happy, even had children, then they decided to get married, after being married for 1 year they break up,
does being married put pressure on that relationship
at the end of the day it is the relationship that matters that is what bonds 2 people together not a piece of paper to say they are married,
i think in general marrage seems to be more important to the woman,
in my opinion nothing past or present should be hidden the book must be open and the pages seen,
nothing hidden, no lies,
only truth trust and love can join two people as one
It's better latehmmm,,,that reminded me of my ex....It is only now that I recall we never talk about marriage after 4 yrs of relationship
I finally realized he is one of those British guys who just doesn't embrace commitment!than never
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... and please don't feel bad about it!My friends say that he must have preferred the local girl (an English woman) over me not because he can no longer afford me but because he didn't want to miss his daily dose
I felt bad because I really thought he is real but I guess I fell into the wrong guy. Glad now that we are done.
... seems to me your ex was a commitment phobe - who'd simply been "leading you a 'merry' dance"!
Well, these guys, how long was it before you started dropping hints about being married?
Maybe they are at a certain age where they think no way to marriage.
Maybe they are in their 30's, 40's etc, and are not married - and this just shows what sort of guys they are - guys who do not want to get married.
Maybe they have come out of a messy divorce, and just like someone who has been bitten by a dog isn't going to want to visit a kennel?
As for the thing about people living together happily for years, get married then split..........it's so strange. We all know people that has happened to, including my best friend. Madness!
Thank you guys for your wonderful insights, i guess that thing about the past is what i want to uncover since i already told all about my past then if it does not work then i say its not gonna work, like the saying says 'it needs two to tango' not only one
... funny you should mention that!- they suddenly found themselves engulfed by overwhelming feelings of entrapment ... to which they'd hitherto been unaccustomed.
in some respects , do we really need to know of their past, do we have a right to know? or is it just down to trust ?Thank you guys for your wonderful insights, i guess that thing about the past is what i want to uncover since i already told all about my past then if it does not work then i say its not gonna work, like the saying says 'it needs two to tango' not only one
What if they had been a mass murderer or a rapist....or just STILL MARRIED ?
Secrets or an unknown past in a relationship are never a good starting point IMO.
What if they had been a mass murderer or a rapist....or just STILL MARRIED ?
Secrets or an unknown past in a relationship are never a good starting point IMO.
personally i dont think there should be anything hidden,, but isnt it down to choice , after all the past is past, its what is now that matters most
It IS, Stewart ...! But sometimes it can be difficult to let go of it.
It IS, Stewart ...
...and some of us have a longer past than others.
They might be at the right age & status in life & are good in making promises but they aren't ready for commitment. Some have bad past experiences, some still enjoyed the single lifestyle, some are not matured enough to tell the truth that marriage is not in their list yet, financially not stable to give their future wife a comfortable life...
It's not easy to tell. Different individuals. Some are full of surprises some are just boring
Don't be confuse. It just gives u a stress. Enjoy your life being single. It will just come along. Instead go out with family & friends, have a healthy lifestyle & keep smiling...one day that smile will capture a true man's heart. Having a relationship it's not that easy. It's always a two way not one way. If you are looking for a marriage type of man, don't waste your time to a man who can't give you what u are looking for. Marriage is not only the answer to every relationship. It takes time, it's reality & not a game. If there are signs that he's not right for you then he's not the one that you are looking for in a husband. Take your time. Just enjoy being single. It will be worst when u are trap in a marriage & found out too late that a man you married is a person that will just break your heart. Marriage is not always a bed of roses, there are also thorns. Keep smiling chick!
If you can't say something nice.
SHUT UP!. Simple.
if a man truly loves you he would marry you...no buts no ifs
... particularly if it comes back to haunt us.
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