Have I underestimated the hold his children have on my partner?he has worked at sea for 12 years-his kids are 14 9 8.he only sees them for about 6 weeks a year.The plan was for him to get an annulment in a couple of years but now I have lost my job on the ship i thought it could be done sooner.He's reluctant cos his wife doesn't want one-she is understandably worried about her financial situation and he doesn't want his kids to hate him-which i guess is a possibility depending on what the mother says to them and its possible she may be vindictive(I've met her).Now he is on vacation in the PH and things have got difficult.
He's very confused and seems to be panicing and grasping at straws-saying we can't possibly have a life together in the UK-it's too difficult-he does'nt want to work on the ship again and has even said he may apply for a visa for New Zealand which would mean he and I wouldn't be together.I feel sorry that he is the one that has to make the difficult choices and sacrifices but I do think we could have a good life here in the UK and it wont be that much different in terms of him working away and seeing his kids for a short time than working on the ship.I am prepared to wait even if it means not seeing each other very much-only when the ship docks in the UK
