This is my first post here. My case may be slightly unusual in that I have been married for 15 years to a lady who was certainly Filipina when we met 21 years ago but who has held a British passport for quite a while and we have two children.

However, two years ago my wife announced that she had found another chap whom she likes better and we are in the final stages of getting divorced, with me keeping custody of the children. Luckily we got married outside the Philippines. We are doing our best to be sensible about the whole business.

Being, obviously, an incurable romantic and having friends in the Philippines from when I worked there, it was only a matter of time before a friend whom I was visiting "set me up" on a date with his girlfriend's best friend's flatmate, which worked rather well, so I seem to be setting off on Round Two.

I have forgotten all the visa rules, and they have probably changed anyway, added to which the lady in question runs her own business and is un-keen on moving to the UK whilst I am quite keen on moving to the Philippines. But I would like her to come and visit for a while, anyway, so once the decree absolute is through I would like to apply for a fiancee visa for her and her little boy.

Where do I start? (and which is the best balikbayan box company these days?)