Hello I'm from Philippines!

[ImaSimpleGirl]

I'm actually new here and decided to join because I really want to hear advices about what I am going through right now..

Well, I met this guy online I think it's been two weeks that we are exchanging messages through email. He was the one who approached me first at another social networking site, he said that he is searching for a his life partner (wife) who is loyal, good, etc. etc. and a friend of him advices him to look and try online coz it worked for him( to his friend) so when he saw my picture he said that he likes me and wants to know more about me..

to make the story short, we end up exchanging messages, coz I think he is really busy to chat so what we usually do is to send messages to each other everyday and since we started our friendship he already me three times..He is telling me he is really planing to see me in person and her mom can't wait or him to get marry, those words get me too excited coz I like to him so much! and it's my first time ever having intimate relationship with a foreigner and just through online.

This is my question:
He is already telling me that he loves me even though we get to know eac h other for two weeks only! but as of for me, I really like him and I thik I'm starting to fall for him too. but I am just confused and afraid that I might end up broken hearted..and aside from that I dont know the real score between the two of us, It's really complicated but I can feel the sincerity of what is telling me..Is that really possible for him to love me in just a short span of time we've known each other?though I feel the same way but I just could't help but think as I dont want to end up broken..

Sorry for the long post, I really want to hear some advices about this..thank you

[Steve.r]

Welcome Simple,

My advice is 'go slow' He says 2 weeks and he is in love already..... sorry alarm bells ringing already!!

Go careful, take your time.

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Yeah..I'm going crazy right now am I such a fool to believe in all his telling me :(

[mickcant]

Hi
In that short time he likes you, but cannot be "in love" in the true sence until you have at least met and spent time together.

He is more "in lust" take things easy and do not get too carried away and see how you feel when you do meet

All the best,
Mick.

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Hi
In that short time he likes you, but cannot be "in love" in the true sence until you have at least met and spent time together.

He is more "in lust" take things easy and do not get too carried away and see how you feel when you do meet

All the best,
Mick.

Helo and thank you for the advice..well, honestly I am really aware about scamers and all about that so what I did when he first approached me I did searched online for his other possible accounts trying to find other info's about him but I end up nothing..I didn't get any answer and that's when I thought that maybe he's telling me the truth..and aside from that, He never talked about sex or anything malicious..so what is that?what does that mean?thanks for your advices

[hawk]

hi and welcome it takes time to build a relationship its was months before i met my girl now my wife after i first meet her i told her this is a relationship i wanted and was not after sex she was ok about this on been honest you should work on the same dont rush into having sex give your time to geather to build a strong bond as with me it was a year till i meet my wife after the first meet and now married time will tell if this person is realy wanting a relationship or just sex if you give into having sex then her dosent want you then you end up hurting but if he respect you then he will wait till you both know each other better i wish you all the best and that it works out for you

[ImaSimpleGirl]

hi and welcome it takes time to build a relationship its was months before i met my girl now my wife after i first meet her i told her this is a relationship i wanted and was not after sex she was ok about this on been honest you should work on the same dont rush into having sex give your time to geather to build a strong bond as with me it was a year till i meet my wife after the first meet and now married time will tell if this person is realy wanting a relationship or just sex if you give into having sex then her dosent want you then you end up hurting but if he respect you then he will wait till you both know each other better i wish you all the best and that it works out for you

helo hawk..

as of now, he never open up about sex or anything malicious and I by the way he is telling me, it seems that he's a true gentleman, there's no sign of him being horny or something like that.

[Arthur Little]

I'm sorry for my english coz honestly I'm not really good at it.

Firstly, there is no need to apologise ... I've just been perusing both of your threads, and - if I may say so - your command of English is beyond reproach. Indeed, your spelling is excellent ... and I mean that sincerely!

It seems to me, that what you need most right now, is self-confidence ... a characteristic that can be cultivated to grow and develop naturally over time. We're here to help and guide you towards achieving this goal - as you've seen from the very sensible responses already posted.

I'm actually new here and decided to join because I really want to hear advices about what I am going through right now..

... secondly, I have taken the decision to merge and relocate your two threads under 'Courting & Relationships' so that the replies you receive are kept in one place for easy reference.

Meanwhile ... a warm to our friendly, online filipino community.

[Dave0555]

Hi ImaSimpleGirl

Like others replying here I would tread very very carefully here. I cannot believe anyone can fall in love so quickly when they are so far apart and only communicate electronically. I think there are a lot of people out there who see Filipinos as an "easy target" because you are, in general all very nice, friendly and sincere human beings. I have personally witnessed some very sad stories of men who acquire Filipino "Trophy Wives" and I would not want that to happen to you.
On my first stay with my soon to be wife who is from Cebu we both agreed on separate rooms so we could have the opportunity to get to know each other without distractions and it was very very successful (by the way we stuck to our guns and had separate rooms throughout our first stay together).
I wish you luck but please please be very very careful and try not to get your hopes built up too much. Trust me - there are a lot of good guys out there and unfortunately a lot of insincere ones too.

Dave

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Hi ImaSimpleGirl

Like others replying here I would tread very very carefully here. I cannot believe anyone can fall in love so quickly when they are so far apart and only communicate electronically. I think there are a lot of people out there who see Filipinos as an "easy target" because you are, in general all very nice, friendly and sincere human beings. I have personally witnessed some very sad stories of men who acquire Filipino "Trophy Wives" and I would not want that to happen to you.
On my first stay with my soon to be wife who is from Cebu we both agreed on separate rooms so we could have the opportunity to get to know each other without distractions and it was very very successful (by the way we stuck to our guns and had separate rooms throughout our first stay together).
I wish you luck but please please be very very careful and try not to get your hopes built up too much. Trust me - there are a lot of good guys out there and unfortunately a lot of insincere ones too.

Dave

Thank you Dave
I am aware about and so far, all he is telling me as of the moment is that he loves me and he is really thankful that he met me at the right time, like what I have said he is searching for his life partner and tried to look online to find out if he'll be lucky enough to find one so here I am falling for him now.. I dont know what to do, just the thought of him being fake my heart will be broken in pieces

[Dave0555]

Glad to help ImaSimpleGirl

The more I read on this thread the more concerned I become. I am really sorry but I find the whole story very suspicious. I dont necessarily think he is a scammer but I do get the impression that he is desperate to get married and is also being pressured by his mother. Is that really what you want?
I am 57 and Lolita arrives here from Cebu on July 1st. She is 48 so we are both mature people and we have lots of experience between us. I am sure she would say the same to you as one of her friends recently got married to a guy from the UK and within days the marriage was in difficulty. She is 26 and he is late 40's early 50's.
You are getting fantastic advice from others on here so dont be afraid to just keep asking. We are all here to help.
I hope this helps and I hope you dont get too disheartened by it all. By the way have you seen each other on cam yet - that is always a great way of getting a feel for each other.
Good luck and keep in touch. DAVE and LOLITA

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Glad to help ImaSimpleGirl

The more I read on this thread the more concerned I become. I am really sorry but I find the whole story very suspicious. I dont necessarily think he is a scammer but I do get the impression that he is desperate to get married and is also being pressured by his mother. Is that really what you want?
I am 57 and Lolita arrives here from Cebu on July 1st. She is 48 so we are both mature people and we have lots of experience between us. I am sure she would say the same to you as one of her friends recently got married to a guy from the UK and within days the marriage was in difficulty. She is 26 and he is late 40's early 50's.
You are getting fantastic advice from others on here so dont be afraid to just keep asking. We are all here to help.
I hope this helps and I hope you dont get too disheartened by it all. By the way have you seen each other on cam yet - that is always a great way of getting a feel for each other.
Good luck and keep in touch. DAVE and LOLITA

Hi Dave,
I also dont like the idea of him getting marry to me just because his mum want him to.. and I haven't seen him ever since we started to chat..we only share messages through email. By the way, I just ask him to chat with webcam with me and if he refuses then maybe he is a real fake

[Dave0555]

Great idea - that will definitely flush him out if he is a fake. I found several scammers on FH when I first started out on this road. They are very easy to spot. Either they ask for money or never let you see them on cam.

I am very glad you are listening to all the advice here - we are not being negative, just realistic. Let us know what his reply is regarding the cam request. Good Luck and God Bless.....................................Dave and Lolita

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Great idea - that will definitely flush him out if he is a fake. I found several scammers on FH when I first started out on this road. They are very easy to spot. Either they ask for money or never let you see them on cam.

I am very glad you are listening to all the advice here - we are not being negative, just realistic. Let us know what his reply is regarding the cam request. Good Luck and God Bless.....................................Dave and Lolita

all of your opinions and advices will really help me a lot to re-think about this matter,.Thank you very much..

I will keep you posted when I get his reponse

[sars_notd_virus]

This is my question:
He is already telling me that he loves me even though we get to know eac h other for two weeks only! but as of for me, I really like him and I thik I'm starting to fall for him too. but I am just confused and afraid that I might end up broken hearted..and aside from that I dont know the real score between the two of us, It's really complicated but I can feel the sincerity of what is telling me..Is that really possible for him to love me in just a short span of time we've known each other?though I feel the same way but I just could't help but think as I dont want to end up broken..

Sorry for the long post, I really want to hear some advices about this..thank you

Give him ultimatum....tell him to visit and meet you in the Philippines...you cant say ''I LOve You'' to someone you dont know??? you dont even know how he looks ,how he speaks , how he walks, ...strange eh!!
anyway, welcome to the forum ImaSimplegirl!!

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Give him ultimatum....tell him to visit and meet you in the Philippines...you cant say ''I LOve You'' to someone you dont know??? you dont even know how he looks ,how he speaks , how he walks, ...strange eh!!
anyway, welcome to the forum ImaSimplegirl!!

Hi Sars

Thanks for your comment. frist of all we've been chatting for two weeks now, it's just two weeks and I dont want to demand anything from him as I dont want him to think of me as a Scammer or anything coz I'm not I only saw his picture when he sent one to me..I am expecting his response in an hour from now..I just hope that he will agree to have a meet and greet chat with me through webcam hehe

[sars_notd_virus]

Hi Sars

Thanks for your comment. frist of all we've been chatting for two weeks now, it's just two weeks and I dont want to demand anything from him as I dont want him to think of me as a Scammer or anything coz I'm not I only saw his picture when he sent one to me..I am expecting his response in an hour from now..I just hope that he will agree to have a meet and greet chat with me through webcam hehe

well, welll,welll hope he agrees with you ...In a virtual and high tech world of the internet ,two weeks is long enough to ask someone to turn on his cam

[Steve.r]

Avoiding the webcam makes me feel very bad for the situation.... he is probably sat in a steamy room in Lagos, Nigeria furiously typing to 20 women at the same time.... just my cynical view.

On a side, why would you be crying for this guy that YOU have only talked to for 2 weeks, Sars is right, you need to wait, and in the well penned words in a song by Phil Collins..... ' you cant hurry love, you just have to wait'

Oh, and dont take an excuse that he doesn't have a webcam, everyone has cams these days, and if he doesn't have one, tell him to man up and go buy one!! the cheapskate

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Avoiding the webcam makes me feel very bad for the situation.... he is probably sat in a steamy room in Lagos, Nigeria furiously typing to 20 women at the same time.... just my cynical view.

hi Steve,
I just hope he's not one of those scammers

On a side, why would you be crying for this guy that YOU have only talked to for 2 weeks, Sars is right, you need to wait, and in the well penned words in a song by Phil Collins..... ' you cant hurry love, you just have to wait'

why am I going to cry? because I like him so much!! though I have never seen him that's what I'm feeling and by the thought of him being such a fake/scammer makes want to cry! (am I being childish?yes I am I know but that's what I am feeling :( )

Oh, and dont take an excuse that he doesn't have a webcam, everyone has cams these days, and if he doesn't have one, tell him to man up and go buy one!! the cheapskate

and thank you for reminding me this just in case if he's a real fake he might think of using this kind of alibi..

[careedee]

Oh, and dont take an excuse that he doesn't have a webcam, everyone has cams these days, and if he doesn't have one, tell him to man up and go buy one!! the cheapskate

this reminds me of my then boyfirend (now my husband) after one week of exchanging messages I ask him if we could chat with webcam, he ask if I could wait for a couple of minutes as he needs to go out and buy a new one I thought he's just making an excuse not to show his self yet after almost an hour he's back with his new webcam, set it up and that starts it all............

simple girl, one day you'll meet the guy who's meant for you, you just have to keep the doors open. Dont get me wrong, i dont think your inlove with this guy, you are just being carried away by the sweet words he's telling you.. just relax girl if he's really into you, he'll do everything, find way to communicate properly to you..

[Steve.r]

if he's really into you, he'll do everything, find way to communicate properly to you..

[ImaSimpleGirl]

this reminds me of my then boyfirend (now my husband) after one week of exchanging messages I ask him if we could chat with webcam, he ask if I could wait for a couple of minutes as he needs to go out and buy a new one I thought he's just making an excuse not to show his self yet after almost an hour he's back with his new webcam, set it up and that starts it all............

simple girl, one day you'll meet the guy who's meant for you, you just have to keep the doors open. Dont get me wrong, i dont think your inlove with this guy, you are just being carried away by the sweet words he's telling you.. just relax girl if he's really into you, he'll do everything, find way to communicate properly to you..

Thannk you so much Careede for such a nice advice..I will keep that in mind. Maybe you're right, maybe it's just because of him being so sweet and caring about me that made me feel and think that I'm inlove with him already..
I am not rushing things coz I'm still young and I still have many plans in my life that I want to pursue..thank you very much for the advice