Basically what you are saying is I'm buggered? From thinking I'm doing the genuine, and correct thing in making sure not only I, but my partner herself was making the right choice in marriage, and by also making sure that her family was able to give us a send off by hosting the wedding, and then my family (and her friends she's made here over the years too) can enjoy the rest of our lives together, and possible future little ones?
I work in Retail, full time, in East Kent. Last year before tax I earned £14.490, so well below that stupidly high £18k+. I currently live with a parent again now, so my expenditure isn't high, which means combined Ruby and myself have managed to save up a nice sum (£3k in joint account still, plus £4k sent to the Philippines in remittance for wedding fees). I claim no benefits from the government now, neither does my mother, and I have no intentions to either. We will be able to live comfortably, and happily (as living with a parent goes) here until we have stabilised ourselves and are in a position to find our own accommodation. We both know that we are capable of surviving easily.
Reading that link though, it says about being above that level of salary for 6 months, which doesn't really help as it's only 5 months until the wedding itself! I got to admit, from being in a calm position, I'm now bricking it over how I'm going to be able to bring her back here again. I will never lose faith, we have both found our soulmates and best friends, but this is a massive blow to my heart :(
