Well guys after all the doubting I had a letter from my mp today.
It reads:
Dear Mr ????.
Many thanks for your letter dated 14th June 2012. The issues you raise are very important to me and I understand the stress you and your wife are going through.
I have written a letter to Damian Green MP responsible for immigration. outlining your case and requesting a response. I have enclosed a letter for your information. While the labour party does agree that immigration must be controlled, it must not be at the expense of responsible u.k. citizens like you who only wish to live in the same place as their spouse.
I hope this letter is satisfactory. I will forward any response to you. Please get in touch if I can be of any further assistance.

Your sincerely

Tom Watson MP.