A question for the men especially if you work away for long periods. but any comment

[patsylou]

I'm female but I don't see that it matters in the situation described. If I worked away from home for years to support my family and found out that my partner had been having an affair, I would feel totally betrayed and very used. I'd have to walk away from that relationship immediately but I have self respect and am strong enough to do so, many others aren't.

If you are not happy in a relationship why cheat? We all have choices (many find excuses not do the decent thing) and we are responsible for our own actions and behaviours.

Thanks Rosie In tried to add any comments including from women but not enough room!The reason I posed the question mainly for men is something us women never have to worry about and that is paternity issues.

[Steve.r]

I live and work away from my wife and son for long periods, but the thing that we both share is 100% trust. Without that you any small doubts will eat away at you. But these days with modern ways of staying in contact, where ever you are in the world you can talk and see eachother daily.

[patsylou]

I live and work away from my wife and son for long periods, but the thing that we both share is 100% trust. Without that you any small doubts will eat away at you. But these days with modern ways of staying in contact, where ever you are in the world you can talk and see eachother daily.

Steve- quite agree about trust thing-you shouldn't be in this kind of relationship if you start to have doubts. My relationship has become even more long distance now Ive lost my job on the same ship and my friends start to say"But don't you worry he might....I stop them there and tell then thats not the way I think and if I ever did I would have to have a serious re-think