Large Age Gap And Happy :)

[gWaPito]

Well, I have just done a double take - a Filipino friend, having glanced at my sister in law's FB page, made a remark about "teenagers getting out of control if they have access to hard drinks" - the picture (admittedly blurry) was of my mahal, clowning about, fag in one hand, brandy in the other!

So here am I, in my late fifties, being accused, by a Pinoy friend, of "cradle snatching" a teenager...

Kay is actually just shy of thirty - but so slim and so drop dead gorgeous that Pinoy friends think she's a T-bird and foreign friends thinnk she might be a ladyboy!

I don't actually care, because we are both as happy as Larry, but coming to the serious point, there is always going to be a time in any May and September relationship when December happens - the older partner, having rattled along happily for years, falls off his (less often her) trolley and quite suddenly becomes old and infirm.

It's grossly unfair on the younger partner to expect him, or, more usually, her, to have to turn, in her forties, say, into an unpaid carer for the feeble minded, incontinent, wheelchair bound, older partner.

I think one has to plan for this.

Actually, where my wife comes from in the Philippines they dont abandon there loved ones into institutions...they actually care and look after them by themselves....as is the norm in the Philippines....its whats expected of the family...unlike here in the west

[anonymous]

Actually, where my wife comes from in the Philippines they dont abandon there loved ones into institutions...they actually care and look after them by themselves....as is the norm in the Philippines....its whats expected of the family...unlike here in the west

Yeah, i agree with you gWapito. I don't know if you are familiar with Zsazsa Padilla & the late Dolphy Quizon, they are both local celebrities here and was in a May-December relationship. Even during the last days of Dolphy, Zsazsa was still on his side, she never did leave her beloved Dolphy. Most of the filipinos have the same attitude We would never leave nor abandon the one we love until the end of time.

[joebloggs]

Actually, where my wife comes from in the Philippines they dont abandon there loved ones into institutions...they actually care and look after them by themselves....as is the norm in the Philippines....its whats expected of the family...unlike here in the west

that's because they or their families cant afford to pay care home fees, which are minimum of £25k a year without nursing care in the UK , and with nursing care could be up to £45k a year depending where you are in the UK .

[andy222]

Actually, where my wife comes from in the Philippines they dont abandon there loved ones into institutions...they actually care and look after them by themselves....as is the norm in the Philippines....its whats expected of the family...unlike here in the west

We have different cultures here in the uk you will find that most asian people rally round when a family member needs help. I see it everyday. But I have seen a bit of a change where the young asians grew up in this country they are becoming more westernised.