I suggest you tell your solicitor (ie LAWYER) of your concerns, then let him do the job he is being very well paid to do.
I'm sorry, but I seem to be getting the impression that your ILR is more important to you than your welfare or that of your child.
You can always apply for a further extension of your stay while you sort out your life here.
There are many agencies who will help you in that, as you're already discovering.
