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    A question to many...

    Heared this to one of the passenger talking to her friend... asking..

    What will you do..if both are in love but the guy is MARRIED ... and can't leave his family for you, but don't want to lose you???

    Speechless.. I can't even react


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    I think that is called CHEATING.

    (Like by my Filipina ex-wife).

    ...The reason I am now DIVORCED.


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    uwag (lust) ra nah lolz og dili gugma (love)

    very simple ^_^ to answer..lolz
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    on the first place, it's a mistake to fall in love with a married man. Second, if the man loves you he will not put you on that situation.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Lhailhani View Post
    Heared this to one of the passenger talking to her friend... asking..

    What will you do..if both are in love but the guy is MARRIED ... and can't leave his family for you, but don't want to lose you???

    Speechless.. I can't even react
    For me its better to go away with him because he had a family already how stupid i am if i continue our relation his not free....COMMON WAKE-UP GIRLS


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    Quote Originally Posted by Moy View Post
    uwag (lust) ra nah lolz og dili gugma (love)

    very simple ^_^ to answer..lolz
    are you visaya?


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    Quote Originally Posted by Rhose View Post
    on the first place, it's a mistake to fall in love with a married man. Second, if the man loves you he will not put you on that situation.
    Correct answer !


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    Of course now I have found a beautiful new lady....haven't I Mercedes.


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    Quote Originally Posted by grahamw48 View Post
    I think that is called CHEATING.

    (Like by my Filipina ex-wife).

    ...The reason I am now DIVORCED.
    i would say i am in between of my ans to you in there graham it could be cheating yes but sometimes there is s deep reason that normally a wife/women/ladies/girls could not explain except from typically uwag (lust) that a husband could not fill up
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rhose View Post
    are you visaya?
    klaro man guro (is it obvious)
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    ..And men also have lust, but it is only the right and decent thing to separate too....if you are not satisfied with your partner.

    What about respect for the children ?


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    Quote Originally Posted by Moy View Post
    klaro man guro (is it obvious)


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    Quote Originally Posted by grahamw48 View Post
    ..And men also have lust, but it is only the right and decent thing to separate too....if you are not satisfied with your partner.

    What about respect for the children ?
    if i am on the situation i would still save the marriage and live normally as husband and wife but you make sure you agree on things that a normal adult wants on a relationship that way i wont hurt the children feeling to watch there parents get separated.. just because of one lust or one is cheating in other words just be completely be honest and talk things privately of what you want for each other :
    A place for everything, everything in its place.


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    Quote Originally Posted by grahamw48 View Post
    ..And men also have lust, but it is only the right and decent thing to separate too....if you are not satisfied with your partner.

    What about respect for the children ?
    considering your children to stay in your relationship is a part of marriage life, what if you're not happy with your partner?
    Though we knew it's not a reason for somebody to cheat


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    If your partner cheats, then the trust has gone.

    No trust= no marriage.

    Whether the children suffer or not is up to how the parents act....either as responsible adults, or selfish fools.

    As far as I'm concerned, if you're cheating on your partner then you're cheating on your innocent and TRUSTING kids.


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    everybody has thier point... i am just wondering too..why men can stay longer with other woman..... and not let her go??? isn't that fair?? to let her stay with u cozz you both chose to be together even you are already committed and have kids... ..but does LOVE really exist both of them...


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    it complicated topic to ans but i would say marriage is not just about love, trust and empathy its a commitment to do the day you decide to marry each other so when the time come like one is cheating or just simply fallen out of love..we dont need to completely destroy the foundation of being married, have time to sit down and discuss the things that will make easier to both of you..lets make a different celebrity/famous people still get divorce regardless of the fame of money they have still they are not happy ..true happiness come from true acceptance and awareness of things around us
    A place for everything, everything in its place.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Moy View Post
    it complicated topic to ans but i would say marriage is not just about love, trust and empathy its a commitment to do the day you decide to marry each other so when the time come like one is cheating or just simply fallen out of love..we dont need to completely destroy the foundation of being married, have time to sit down and discuss the things that will make easier to both of you..lets make a different celebrity/famous people still get divorce regardless of the fame of money they have still they are not happy ..true happiness come from true acceptance and awareness of things around us
    almost cry yes.. sometimes broken marriage is the output of having no time to talk about things... that happening with marriage... :( how i wish i insist more before.... to my marriage... sad to be alone... but maybe for me.. I can accept my husband to cheat.. coz at the end of the say at the dawn of our life.. still they are going home ... where wife's waiting... but not a husband whose beating wife's


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    Quote Originally Posted by Lhailhani View Post
    everybody has thier point... i am just wondering too..why men can stay longer with other woman..... and not let her go??? isn't that fair?? to let her stay with u cozz you both chose to be together even you are already committed and have kids... ..but does LOVE really exist both of them...
    love does not just consist of feeling and concern too each other but love also could move mountain as one saying say but anyway thats only saying back to reality when you love someone you have to accept be blinded not but completely embrace his/her ups and down and am sure you'll understand of what am saying sounds complicated and not right to others but it does work in me

    but the big no in staying to be married is it involves with hurting/torturing you physically thats another story of course
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    Quote Originally Posted by Moy View Post
    it complicated topic to ans but i would say marriage is not just about love, trust and empathy its a commitment to do the day you decide to marry each other so when the time come like one is cheating or just simply fallen out of love..we dont need to completely destroy the foundation of being married, have time to sit down and discuss the things that will make easier to both of you..lets make a different celebrity/famous people still get divorce regardless of the fame of money they have still they are not happy ..true happiness come from true acceptance and awareness of things around us
    good point of view Moy


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    Quote Originally Posted by Moy View Post
    love does not just consist of feeling and concern too each other but love also could move mountain as one saying say but anyway thats only saying back to reality when you love someone you have to accept be blinded not but completely embrace his/her ups and down and am sure you'll understand of what am saying sounds complicated and not right to others but it does work in me

    yes got your point..... well too late i ended mine long time ago....

    but maybe the reason they stay together is the feeling that they gave to each other.... let each other feel special and loved ...


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    Quote Originally Posted by Moy View Post
    love does not just consist of feeling and concern too each other but love also could move mountain as one saying say but anyway thats only saying back to reality when you love someone you have to accept be blinded not but completely embrace his/her ups and down and am sure you'll understand of what am saying sounds complicated and not right to others but it does work in me

    but the big no in staying to be married is it involves with hurting/torturing you physically thats another story of course
    Quote Originally Posted by Lhailhani View Post
    yes got your point..... well too late i ended mine long time ago....

    but maybe the reason they stay together is the feeling that they gave to each other.... let each other feel special and loved ...
    you might be ended long time ago but its not that late life is too short to be wasted go and find your love still love dont need to chase but it will come freely when you are ready to embrace the scent of being loved
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    Quote Originally Posted by mercedes View Post

    For me its better to go away with him
    ... I think what you're meaning to say is: "Go away FROM him!"


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    Quote Originally Posted by ArthurLittle View Post
    "Go away FROM him!"
    Sound advice ... which, hopefully, the young lady will heed and act upon! for your concern, Lhailhani.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Moy View Post
    you might be ended long time ago but its not that late life is too short to be wasted go and find your love still love dont need to chase but it will come freely when you are ready to embrace the scent of being loved


    will let u know!! when that time come


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    Quote Originally Posted by Lhailhani View Post
    yes got your point..... well too late i ended mine long time ago....
    A lesson that we need to understand not just only the feelings we're going consider. You've move on..goes with your life now and feel free to love. It's not too late because there's a second chance. Love the second time around as I've heard is more sweeter..


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    Quote Originally Posted by Arthur Little View Post
    Hopefully ... the young lady will heed this advice!
    heed??


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    Yikes!

    This happens so often. It is one thing where some cheating husband is looking for something which is not in his marriage. Although I cannot condone this, it happens, there can be many reasons it happens, and we cannot really judge without knowing the reasons why.
    If both parties - the husband and his "bit on the side" are aware that she is only the "second best sexual relief" (lets not dress this up), then that is one thing.

    It is quite another - the man saying "oh I love you, I will leave her for you, she doesn't understand me - but he never does and never will. He is getting it both ways.

    For any women, don't you deserve better than second best?

    And for any women, something touched on - you DEFINITELY deserve better than some beating husband scumbag. A real man never hits a woman!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Rhose View Post
    heed??
    Ah ... it means 'take due notice'.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Arthur Little View Post
    Sound advice ... which, hopefully, the young lady will heed and act upon! for your concern, Lhailhani.


    hahahaha sure sure.....


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