Well, if she wasn't nasty then why would she say such a hurtful thing ????

As for your husband not allowing you some money for yourself..... it makes me wonder if you are a wife or his maid ..... sorry to be blunt.

His daughter should remember exactly 'who you are' and your husband should sort out why she is being so nasty and tell her to pull her neck in and get over it. I think you need to have a good chat with your husband about real life before this goes too far.