you should have some sort of allowance, even if its a little, it gives you that little independance not having to ask him for money, try asking him, your step daughter is just being immature, may be a little jealouse , what you contribute to the house now is what counts, if you are anything like Emma, there is more love and somethings being cooked all the time in our home, you must ask him for a allowance, say for buying food and the change is for you to keep,